Nelford
Don Juan
I would go and have a good time. There will be food, drinks, dancing and shooting the breeze. She wants to show you off man. I think it will be a good idea.baltyre said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
GF upset I won't go to her HS reunion w/her
- Thread starter baltyre
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
squirrels
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Two choices:
1) Go
2) Dump her and find a girl who grew up enough to move on after high school.
1) Go
2) Dump her and find a girl who grew up enough to move on after high school.
Nelford
Don Juan
If you change your mind, how are you going to convince her you really want to go.
Damn straight.And some men wonder why their women cheat on them.
You're in a relationship with her? Then you have a responsibility to do your share and that means compromising here and there and keeping her happy. Your reasoning makes you sound like a baby about this. It's only one night. If you can't handle that, how the hell are you going to handle bigger issues with her when the time comes?
Maybe she wants to show you off? Maybe she wants a guy she can share her fun with? Just go and make it fun.
You read that thread where the guy neglected taking his wife out? Has excuses like funds are low, just had a baby. But the wife was asking and asking to be taken out. And he didn't.
Guess what? She found another guy to take her out.
Learn from other people's mistakes. It's less costly that way.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
baltyre said:We've been together for 4+ months. She has her 10 year high school reunion in May. It is formal with everybody getting dressed up & going all out. I told her I didn't want to go and now she is mad at me.
For starters, I won't know anybody and it will be boring. She's excited about talking to old friends, but that will be very boring for me. It just seems like a lot of hassle, and we've only been together for 4+ months. It will kill my entire Saturday too. I don't think I'm being selfish, it's not like I've known her for 7-8 months, just 4+. What do you think?
you should go..are you kidding me? If she is taking you around all these people..she thinks ur the deal
4 months is a pretty long time..I can see why she is pissed.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I remember reluctantly going to an old GFs office party. She was so thankful that she gave me a night of pure sexual pleasure. It was worth it.
Having said that, you should go with her. It is part of your responsibilty as her BF. Cheers!
Having said that, you should go with her. It is part of your responsibilty as her BF. Cheers!
cordoncordon
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You sound like a little pansy girl with your whining. Get your azz in gear and go with your woman!baltyre said:For starters, I won't know anybody and it will be boring. She's excited about talking to old friends, but that will be very boring for me. It just seems like a lot of hassle, and we've only been together for 4+ months. It will kill my entire Saturday too. I don't think I'm being selfish, it's not like I've known her for 7-8 months, just 4+. What do you think?
How about:Two choices:
1) Go
2) Dump her and find a girl who grew up enough to move on after high school.
3. Dump her and find a girl that never made it to high school in the first place.