"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jadeona13

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i was at my GF the other day..she just got texting and a new cell..she is sitting on my lap texting for like 10 mins..i say, "can i see ur phone''...she gives ,me the phone and gets a text from a kid named Jack..who was her ex bf, but only for a week..

the texts says.."Isnt ur BF gna be mad we are texting?'' and "I dont care if hes mad whatever we are just friends''

i told her i dont like it and she says. they are just friends

she is still texting him

should i worry?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No you should continue being her little pushover puppy boy.
 

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If the ex-boyfriend asked if you would get mad with them texting I would venture a guess they are not sleeping together as that would probably make you a little more angry.

However she is testing you, showing you what she wrote. She wants to know if you have a spine.
 

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......"I dont care if hes mad"

...............What do you think?

Think about this....would she get mad if YOU started texting your ex-gf? If you dont have one pretend.
 

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break her phone!

Nah...seriously..its a big disrespect. I would withdraw my time and attention and start looking else were for a new girlfriend. Branch swang them hoes!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Warrior74 said:
break her phone!

Nah...seriously..its a big disrespect. I would withdraw my time and attention and start looking else were for a new girlfriend. Branch swang them hoes!
I agree! You should have lost all respect for her. She obviously doesn't take you seriously, and that's not a girl you should take seriously.
 

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Why do you have a GF?

Seriously. why did you give away single life to be with her.

Who cares what she dose, just fvck her until she leaves.
 

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She always has the choice to not reply to her EX... There's a reason why she's still texting him...

Be careful with her brother.. Don't get too attached cuz she can easily turn around and stab you in the back.
 

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I wonder if the right thing to do is just get up and leave.
 

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jadeona13 said:
i was at my GF the other day..she just got texting and a new cell..she is sitting on my lap texting for like 10 mins..i say, "can i see ur phone''...she gives ,me the phone and gets a text from a kid named Jack..who was her ex bf, but only for a week..

the texts says.."Isnt ur BF gna be mad we are texting?'' and "I dont care if hes mad whatever we are just friends''

i told her i dont like it and she says. they are just friends

she is still texting him

should i worry?
Brother - how old are you?

It's a test. Little Bro'.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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jadeona13 said:
i was at my GF the other day..she just got texting and a new cell..she is sitting on my lap texting for like 10 mins..i say, "can i see ur phone''...she gives ,me the phone and gets a text from a kid named Jack..who was her ex bf, but only for a week..

the texts says.."Isnt ur BF gna be mad we are texting?'' and "I dont care if hes mad whatever we are just friends''

i told her i dont like it and she says. they are just friends

she is still texting him

should i worry?
:nono: Beware of becoming "The Rebound Guy..."
 

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Just my 2-cents, but from what I read....in such situations, just play it cool and pretend it's nothing, like you don't care about her anyway. If you lose your cool, it will show her that she can control your emotions and that's not the way of the DJ. :)

And if she has no reaction and continues to text the ex-bf, then is she the kinda girl you wanna marry?

Good luck,
Nikar
 

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Nikar said:
Just my 2-cents, but from what I read....in such situations, just play it cool and pretend it's nothing, like you don't care about her anyway. If you lose your cool, it will show her that she can control your emotions and that's not the way of the DJ. :)

And if she has no reaction and continues to text the ex-bf, then is she the kinda girl you wanna marry?

Good luck,
Nikar
i always pretned i dont care..and most times i dont haha..but then she says..u never act like u care so i keep doing what i want
 

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i always pretned i dont care..and most times i dont haha..but then she says..u never act like u care so i keep doing what i want
If people are going to do this, what's the purpose of pretending that you're in a relationship by saying that you're dating? The girl could be right, you are just friends (with benefits).
 
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Take her phone and tell her you're going to give him some tips on how to get you back. Tell her you're going to give him a short lesson and he's gonna have a pop quiz at the end.

Take the different approach, almost no guy will ever do this....except you now of course :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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oldschooler said:
Do not sell out your belief's.
Tell her clearly that it's unnatural to be friends with your X and that you don't like it.
Let her know that your her boyfriend and that you don't mind her having guy friends but on the same token if she has the need to be close with her X that she needs some time to think.
"It's fine, if you still have that need im putting every thing on hold you need some time to think."
This passes the power to the woman to do something about it, it becomes her problem not yours (THE WAY IT SHOULD BE!).
This works wonders, either she'll go back to her X in which case you saved your self ALOT of hassle or she will come back to you with even more respect.
While you two are on break, get out there, spin some plates for she will do the same to try make you jealous, tell me how can you honestly be jealous of not being with her? you have other options, spin some plates.
i thought the man was suppose to have the power in the relationship?
 

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jadeona13 said:
i was at my GF the other day..she just got texting and a new cell..she is sitting on my lap texting for like 10 mins..i say, "can i see ur phone''...she gives ,me the phone and gets a text from a kid named Jack..who was her ex bf, but only for a week..

the texts says.."Isnt ur BF gna be mad we are texting?'' and "I dont care if hes mad whatever we are just friends''

i told her i dont like it and she says. they are just friends

she is still texting him

should i worry?
LOL... its too late to worry.. her respect level is at -3 on a 1 to 10 scale..
Start looking for other girls to F now! so when she dumps you, you will not have to go F'less
 
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Warrior74 said:
break her phone!

Nah...seriously..its a big disrespect. I would withdraw my time and attention and start looking else were for a new girlfriend. Branch swang them hoes!
Soo true... at the first sign of disrespect you have to switch off and just use her for F.. while you start spinning plates..,
 

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scarface316 said:
She always has the choice to not reply to her EX... There's a reason why she's still texting him...

Be careful with her brother.. Don't get too attached cuz she can easily turn around and stab you in the back.

Looks like she is stabbing him in the front now..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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