"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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GF Stealing Stuff From My House

stuartSan

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Weird things like these always happen to me.

Okay so I decided to wander off into AFC-land (glad I did, actually) and kept MSN logging on, because my GF was using the computer in my house 24/7, and while I'm out doing my hairstyling course.

Its unethical, but I don't know what exactly needs to be done now.

It isn't solid proof, but you can't blame me for leaving the MSN logging on from now onwards. I need to investigate anyway.

Part of the log read: (translated from Malaysian english to proper english)

GF's sister: hey, so can u get the wallet for me?
GF: um.. sis.. about the wallet, i don't think i can get it for you, because TOO MANY things are missing.
GF's sister: hehe okay.. you're so naughty! stealing people's gold and pawning..
GF: well i share it with you, don't i?

Okay, my GF hasn't been home (her real home) in 2 months, because she has been staying over. She either goes to work or comes back to my place. I KNOW this because the only place she can go from my home is work, because she takes a taxi (or she could be stealing from some other guys house, which also means she's a cheater, because she'd tell me if she had to go somewhere) and I fetch her home from work back to my place.

There isn't any gold or wallet at her workplace, she deals with food, and the workers don't wear jewelry and stuff like that due to cleanliness. The phrase 'TOO MANY things missing' also mean that its stolen from the same source. It isn't that convenient to steal anything from her restaurant, let alone something valuable (which you don't find there). This message was logged today.

So far, I don't have any solid evidence about this case, but deductive reasoning and analyzing really points to her stealing from my home. Of course I'll hold it in and continue finding if its 100% true, but it seems so hard now. I really feel so pissed. What would you guys do if you were in my shoes?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jdr120

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Well are you missing any of your stuff...

If you are, show her the email, and throw her things in the sewer outside your house... Hell, do it even if she isn't stealing from you.. because it's just a matter of time when you go to the ATM to buy something, and you get the message "INSUFICIENT FUNDS".... It's just a metter of time before she starts selling your stuff..
 

stuartSan

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Well, they were talkin about gold and wallets, and only my mom collects those, and I'm still waitin for her to get back, so I'll only find out by then.. probably around 3 hours?
 

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Well hopefully nothings missing.. but if there's alot, then you got some Great evidence for a court case...

But to avoid this problem.. DON'T LET GIRLS STAY AT YOUR HOUSE WHEN YOU'RE NOT HOME... unless she is paying half the rent...

But seriously... if she is stealing.. bust her, and get All of your shiet back...
 

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Wow, I've never had anything even vaguely like that to deal with. I know you have evidence now, but did you get any bad indications from her in the past?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How admissible are chat logs in court?

I wonder if it'd be going too far to set up a "hidden camera". But first ask your mom if stuff is missing.

You never got a feel that she was screwing you somehow other than in the sexual sense? :confused:
 

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Well its a dead end both ways. Took a while, but it finally struck me. No use asking for advice when..

.. I don't want a person who steals other people's belonging's (even though they weren't from my home) as my girlfriend. That'll be a huge disgrace.

This girl was the one who came back to me in my previous post (when I said I was in a rut, and she somehow came back, blablabla). squirrels would probably remember her.

Nah, a waste of time bringing her to court. Don't want to waste thousands for the case over a 500-999? dollar feud. Logs aren't credible enough as evidence though.

What a waste though, things were really going great between us. Its going to be 6 months on the 10th of August. She never did anything wrong, and treated me REALLY good, cept for the stealing part. :/

Feeling weird now. Hate this feeling. Am confronting her face to face as soon as I get confirmation from my mom.
 
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