"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Gf says she doesn't know anything about me

Strongsauce

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Granted its only the second week we've been "going out" officially. But she says its frustrating her that she doesn't know anything about me. Does this mean anything other than I need to talk about myself more when I'm around her? I thought I was doing good by keeping some "mystery" about myself and letting her do most of the talking but now she's onto me... lol. And to be honest I'm not much of an exciting guy.

I'm 19, she's 21, and she's only my second real relationship (so far) and I don't have a ton of friends or life experience to speak of like she does. I've been a shy, nerdy kid for most of my teenage life, so I'm sort of at a loss.

Essentially I guess I want to know if I should really shift the focus more on to myself, and if that's the case, what should I do? I'm pretty good at seeming like an interesting guy, that's how I got her in the first place, lol. But now I feel like I'm running out of steam and I need ways to keep things going and make myself still appear to be interesting!
 

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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

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swifTy

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she wants you to talk more.

you dont have to reveal everythin about yourself in one whack. you spread it out. and its probably not even that; she just wants to hear you talkin. truth is, if the girl thinks your hot, you can say whatever the sh!t you want. you can talk absolute bullcrap and she'll think its the best thing she's eva heard.

joke around. make her laugh. dont be serious. and every now and then throw in an experience you've had that ties in with what your sayin and she'll be like wow he's openin up to me.

when you dont say much, when you DO, it makes that person feel special. so you can use what you've setup so far to your advantage.

whatever you do don't go down that bullsh!t road of, omg, i have to remain myserrious, i can't say too much. the more you talk the better. a Dj can talk forever and never get the girl bored. however the above poster is right in what he's sayin. if she has you figured out in 2 weeks thats probably game over. but its the way in which you talk. if you can talk and talk and yet still always have that elusive something about you it'll be like an awesome book that just keeps on goin. i think its just how you come across. if you always come across exciting and new, always got somethin to say, news to spread, jokes to tell, she'll never get bored. and always spread stuff out that is directly about yourself. she earns it kind of thing. if you DONT talk, she'll write you off as borin, may even percieve it as lack of confidence, leading a borin life, aka not who she wants.

and then theres the girl who go from guy to guy and they like to know their whole freakin life story in as quick a time as possible. these girls are nuts. its more of a game for them. when it comes to these girls the whole mystery game really mind fvcks them but like i said these girls are nuts and not who you want anyway.

based on my own experience.
 
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