Been in a relationship with this girl for 9 months. She is 19 and im 24. I recently dumped her ( 2 weeks ago) and now were talking again and she says she wants to be celibate. This is not the first time she tried this, she did it 3x times in our relationship and it didnt last. She feels that i always break up with her and she says she doesnt want to keep falling deeper in love with me through sex and wants to be celibate cuz of her religion. I was her first sexual partner. I think she going to change her mind soon like always and i may take time cuz she is probably still hurt cuz i just broke up with her but idk. At first i was like wtf, but i told her imma chill and see how things work out. I need some advice.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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GF says she decided to be celibate..
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You don't pose any question or anything for advice. But what are you looking for?
Because from what I can see you're in a very disfunctional relationship, displayed by the fact you break up multiple times. Presumabley reoccuring problems. If not, that's still not a good or healthy relationship to be in.
What kind of person keeps having sex but saying they are going to be celibate, mutliple times? That doesn't make any sense what-so-ever. Contridict yourself much?
Also. What kind of person is scared to fall deeper and deeper "in love?" Someone who has commitment issues, that's who. Or someone who doesn't fully believe you want to be with them in the long run / are using them. Which doesn't make sense why she would want to be with someone like that.
What are you looking for man? This seems like a really stupid / unhealthy relationship.
TLDR: No sex + constant break-ups = bad relationship.
Why would you want to be in a bad relationship?
Because from what I can see you're in a very disfunctional relationship, displayed by the fact you break up multiple times. Presumabley reoccuring problems. If not, that's still not a good or healthy relationship to be in.
What kind of person keeps having sex but saying they are going to be celibate, mutliple times? That doesn't make any sense what-so-ever. Contridict yourself much?
Also. What kind of person is scared to fall deeper and deeper "in love?" Someone who has commitment issues, that's who. Or someone who doesn't fully believe you want to be with them in the long run / are using them. Which doesn't make sense why she would want to be with someone like that.
What are you looking for man? This seems like a really stupid / unhealthy relationship.
TLDR: No sex + constant break-ups = bad relationship.
Why would you want to be in a bad relationship?
3countriesPlan
Master Don Juan
What a power move, tell her there will be no- fagg0try from her and that if you all are together she better start acting like it. If she wants no s3x she can go date a piece of wood. Playa, you have to think about how other girls will want to get lit up everytime they see you. Fun thought right? So, if she is untalented its time you find some new talent.
DonGorgon
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GF says she decided to be celibate.. SHE IS ONLY NO LONGER FING YOU
backbreaker
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if this was texas no limit hold em i would go "all in" that she is taking up the bum from someone else. she doesn't want to have to keep you and the other guy happy. oldest trick in the book.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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If you're not interested in being celibate too, then you guys aren't compatible and you need to move on.
ThunderMaverick
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Sex is power to her, and you breaking up with her over and over again is power to YOU. She has every right to give you that ultimatum when she knows you're not sure about her.
Stop being wishy washy and stop breaking up and getting back together with someone you're not sure about.
Stop being wishy washy and stop breaking up and getting back together with someone you're not sure about.
Me being unsure about wanting to be with her isn't and wasn't the case. Seeing that Im in love with her. Its has more to do with me wanting to deal with things that naturally come in a relationship.I could've easily gone out and found another chick but in the end that chick wouldve brought another problem. It doesn't matter now cuz we did end up having sex. Cuz I figured she was using it as power move because she begs for me to be more submissive (which is never going to happen in the way she is thinking). It was probably her way of teaching me a lesson (which was rite of her cuz I did break her heart).
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Seeing that Ive dealt with a number of women. I understand that there isn't goingnto be any female in the world that isn't gonna come with some problems u dont like. In the past they'd get charge in a minute because I didn't have to deal with it. Seeing now that I'm in a relationship I can't be charging her for small **** I just got to play cool and use another form of discipline.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
LOL What a crock! Don't believe it for a minute, there's another guy in the wings or she just isn't feeling you anymore, bud.
She decided to be celibate?
You need to celibrate your decision to be single.
She decided to be celibate?
You need to celibrate your decision to be single.
Alex DeLarge
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Tell her you decided to be non-monogamous lol