"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Gf says "let's stop here"

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Htienvu

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Gf of 4 months, everything is as smooth as it can be. Lastnight after sex we cuddled up and talked. She's been going on about my expectation of her, saying she can't be perfect girl as I wanted. I think this bothers her and scares her. She said "let's stop here" after telling me something bothers her, she thinks that we might not get on in the future, she said it's just a feeling she's getting.

Like I said everything has been so smooth so far, we get on never argue, she never seem bored and seem happy around me and the sex has been great!. Could she be testing my feelings as I don't reveal much to her! Or could be lost of interest, but her words and ACTIONS does not tell me that. Is there another guy in the picture? could be but highly unlikely from what I see.

After she said that to me I said if that's your decision then ok, I am fine with it. I tried leaving but she insisted on me staying the night. Left at the end after 3rd try, saying there's no point staying anymore. She had twinkles in her eyes like she was going to cry, wanted to kiss me for the last time but I refused saying there's no point.

I am not heartbroken because I didn't let myself fall for her, I was prepared because this could happen at anytime with women. I am just a little disappointed because it could have been something in the future.

What to do? Leave it with her? or have a chat to assure her that she has no reason to be scared and I don't expect her to be perfect. Also assure her that my feeling is adequate? I would never use the word "love". If that doesn't work then move on I guess.

What do you guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Man this crap irks me! its like women want that spark with a man, and everything could be going smooth, and emotions running high. She finds someone that fits her desires, but then could drop an unsuspecting bomb like this out of the blue.

Idk what to tell you except that there is either a) another man in the depths of her thoughts, b) she has grown to lose interest, and wants a new thrill/guy without displaying those symptoms to you, c) she wants to be single and slut it up for a while.

Regardless of her motives, the fact that she unfolded her feelings of unlikely long-term connection with you means that you should emotionally detach yourself now, and even possibly look for other girls. You can still talk to her and treat her as you've been, but don't be surprised if she is spontaneously completely departed from you one day. Remember that trying harder to make her want you more will only push her away, so do what you've been doing, and lets fate have its way lol.
 
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