well last nite,my gf came over for new years. i decided to take her home before 12 so i wouldnt get pulled over with her in the car. she convinced me to stay til 12 for the ball to drop,but it was kind of a mutual thing. but yeah,on the way home,i got pulled over by a cop that said i was swerving (bullsh!t) and fined me 135$ PLUS towing charges for my car to be impounded. im a jr operator so he charged me the 35$ for being out after 12. my gf feels kinda responsible for it and offered to pay the 35$ fine. should i take it or pay it all myself? (i dont have a job yet,looked everywhere today,no one will friggen hire me)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
gf offered to help pay ticket
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
McKindley
Senior Don Juan
1) yes, someone will hire you. You're just not looking in the right places.
2) If you have some sort of pride issue here, then don't let her pay it. Its only 35 bucks. However, I can see why she would want to chip in. It might make her feel a little better. If the reverse was true (my GF got caught breaking a law that she didn't want to break but I coaxed her into it) then I would feel better if she let me chip in.
But hey, its up to you. What do YOU think?
2) If you have some sort of pride issue here, then don't let her pay it. Its only 35 bucks. However, I can see why she would want to chip in. It might make her feel a little better. If the reverse was true (my GF got caught breaking a law that she didn't want to break but I coaxed her into it) then I would feel better if she let me chip in.
But hey, its up to you. What do YOU think?
Runna13=)
Don Juan
Swerving? Were you a little tipsy or something, or are you a newbie driver?
You have no job. It was her fault. Reluctantly take the money.
You have no job. It was her fault. Reluctantly take the money.
bogman2121
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if you were drunk or had any beer in you thats your fault and she shouldn't have let you drive but if you didnt have anything how could the cop just impound your car even if you were out late?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
he wouldnt let me drive the last mile home so he had it towed. then the ironic thing was when i got in the back he goes "if you cant find the seatbelt, dont worry about it, its right down the road" haha
i should tell the court that he endangered my well being by saying i didnt need to wear the seatbelt
and i hadnt drank anything,im not a big fan of it. he thought i was drunk and/or high but i told him i wasnt and he was like "you seem like a nice young man,ill believe you"
i should tell the court that he endangered my well being by saying i didnt need to wear the seatbelt
and i hadnt drank anything,im not a big fan of it. he thought i was drunk and/or high but i told him i wasnt and he was like "you seem like a nice young man,ill believe you"
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Where do you live that cops can take your car and give finds under their own rules?
massachusetts 
he gave me a "marked lanes violation" which implies i was driving on the wrong side of the road altogether. if anything,i may have tapped the yellow lines once or twice,but whatever.
online it says this about being out late:
If you are caught operating on a "Junior Operator's License" during those hours, without your parent present in the vehicle, you will be deemed to be operating a motor vehicle without being duly licensed. It is a criminal offense and you may be punished by a fine of not less than $100 nor more than $200.
oops haha. the cop didnt make it a criminal offense (couldve arrested me) now idk if i should contest this ticket...
he gave me a "marked lanes violation" which implies i was driving on the wrong side of the road altogether. if anything,i may have tapped the yellow lines once or twice,but whatever.
online it says this about being out late:
If you are caught operating on a "Junior Operator's License" during those hours, without your parent present in the vehicle, you will be deemed to be operating a motor vehicle without being duly licensed. It is a criminal offense and you may be punished by a fine of not less than $100 nor more than $200.
oops haha. the cop didnt make it a criminal offense (couldve arrested me) now idk if i should contest this ticket...