"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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GF of 2 years goes to Halloween party w/o mentioning/inviting me; sign of trouble?

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Halloween is essentially one of THE hook-up nights of the year. A girl going there without her guy is signalling her availability to other guys.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just stop contacting her, if she doesn't want to involve you in her halloween, then why should you involve her in your life ;)

Dump her ass
 

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As another poster said, you should not be home on Halloween. She should not be ditching you, but you should be out enjoying life. In fact from this point on make it a habit to go out places and meet people. If she doesn't want to come along with you or makes excuses to stay in, i'd say start looking around
 

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I actually like it when my sig other has a life of her own outside of mine.

Is this a pattern of behavior that you're seeing, or a one-time thing? Are you already really tight inside THIS social circle? Do her friends like you a lot?

It's entirely possible that she just wanted a night with the girls, and hell maybe even a night to flirt with other guys to remind herself how sexy she is.

If it becomes a pattern, then I'd personally get worried. Are you really in the dark about what kind of person she is at this point after two years that you don't know why this is happening?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ok guys sort of forgot about this thread but remembered today and came back to see a fun read.

Anywho, she told me that the party was with 4 other girls at her friends house where they wore costumes and drank. So had no worries there.

I see now on Facebook she is planning to go partying this weekend with her friend again (she basically wrote on her wall saying how she had such a tough week of school that she needs to get drunk). Her friend wrote back that she's going to a party and will text my GF when they're ready to go. If she doesn't tell me about it/goes without mentioning it to me then she's getting kicked to the curb.

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This friend of hers we went to highschool with. This friend, my GF, and myself all live in the same city. I don't believe her friend likes me the best.

It's odd because A) she hardly ever drinks/parties. She's not a chronic partier but she likes to get drunk maybe 1-3 times a month. B) maybe it's because of this dynamic with her friend that leads me to not being invited as i don't go with that social circle but I'm used to her inviting/bringing these things up to me.

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Regardless I believe it's good to dump a girl once and a while to make her remember not to get complacent.

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And Finally as to why I didn't go out on Halloween, I recently moved into this current city to train MMA. I've been here about 3-4 weeks and I don't quite know anyone yet.
 

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itishe said:
Anywho, she told me that the party was with 4 other girls at her friends house where they wore costumes and drank. So had no worries there.
Sure, because women never lie.

If you only just moved to this city and don't know many people, and your GF does, she should never let you be by yourself on Halloween, even if she weren't cheating on you. That's more than enough to get her dumped.
 

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itishe said:
I see now on Facebook she is planning to go partying this weekend with her friend again (.
Hate to say this, but, dude, your relationship is over.
 

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Facebook is women's new covert communication device.

I'll have nothing to do with it.

But read what is being said.
 

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Holy buckets L is this you?

LOL

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=167158

What KX said is excatly on point the whole FB thing "girls night" this is how it happend to my boy "L" excatly the same, constant partying etc etc

Once they broke up two days later another guy is smashing it, it ceases to amaze me but read the thread man

peace
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Yeah, it sucks because so often you guys are right about this **** and yet I want to keep believing I'm not affected by it. I just wish a broad would tell you she's no longer interested, etc. instead of trying to find new **** before losing full interest.

The thing about this forum is often I'm given the worst news. Never am I told not to worry, it just seems like everything is geared towards women are up to no good. I forgot to mention that she called/texted me to which I didn't reply after her first party that she wanted me to pick her up and do anal on her. Lol.
 

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You passed up a chance for make-up buttsex? You should have rammed it on home, then told her to kick rocks afterwards.
 

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itishe said:
I just wish a broad would tell you she's no longer interested, etc. instead of trying to find new **** before losing full interest.
Brother you got it all wrong. It is not about letting a woman telling you she is no longer interested. That only makes her as the prize and you like some chump that is just hanging about waiting for the final nail in the coffin. You are supposed to act like a dj. You think a dj is going to just let himself get disrespected and live with the trouble that his gf is doing bad stuff behind his back? he doesn't put up with that s____

All these guys have in common is that they let their girlfriends disrespect them, treat them bad and keep hanging around their gfs knowing their a$$ is going to get dumped sooner or later. This is what happens when you have an equal relationship rather than you being the dominant male that you are supposed to be. If you let a woman dominate a relationship you better believe she will dump your a$$ and find herself a real man.

Women want dominant males not wimps that let themselves get disrespected.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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arutha

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Just been through almost the same thing. Check my thread for what I did. Not saying it was the right thing, not saying it will work for you, but its another idea. Remember, even after all the advice you get it is essentially you who must decide what to do.

I suggest make her miss you; get scarce for a while. Go back to being the person that first attracted her to you, most people get lazy that far into a relationship. All this of course only IF you want to try to get it going again, otherwise yeah just move on.
 
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