"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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GF of 1year+ disrespected me last night, did I make the right call?

CaptainKraken

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gf of 1 year+ , used to have amazing sex all the time, over the past 2 months sex has pretty much gone to complete ****...we still have sex atleast once a week but its pretty **** now. she used to be really into it with lots of BJs and kissing me all over and all that, but over the past 2 months she dosent give BJs anymore and just lays there like a dead fish basicly..

anyway, last night we were having sex and her vagina got really dry in the middle of it so i pulled out and couldnt get it back in...no big deal i just told her to finish me off with her mouth and hands, she flat out refused to use her mouth and berely touched my **** for like 10 seconds before saying i should just deal with the blue balls, then she just laid there half asleep..so i just finished myself off then we went to sleep.

usually on the weekends i stay for 2 days but this time i left first thing this morning telling her that i had **** to do, and she started getting teary eyed asking me if i was mad and all that, and i told her nah dont worry about it blah blah then left

did i handle this properly? shes texting me right now but im just ignoring her and contemplating breaking up with her,

what should I do about this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Willard

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You handled it fine, but she has either lost interest with you or she is on someone else's route. You can dump her or tell her you need a break, somethings broken there.
Good luck
 

TheException

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Willard said:
You handled it fine, but she has either lost interest with you or she is on someone else's route. You can dump her or tell her you need a break, somethings broken there.
Good luck
Ya. Interest levels will fluctuate throughout a relationship. This definitely is a valley in terms of that.

It is your job to re-engage her hypergamy. I think you did an excellent job of leaving. I would just be distant for a little. She will work herself into a frenzy and that is a good thing for you.

***Nuclear option*** do not initiate sex the next weekend you are over there. Act distant, but do not be a d1ck. Don't do any gay stuff like hand holding or whispering sweet nothings. I bet she will engage you and practically rape you.
 

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Ignore her for a few days and if she doesn't shape up after that dump her.
 

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appreciate the advice, been ignoring her all day and she's been blowing up my phone like crazy..like 30 texts and 12 missed calls, gonna keep ignoring her for a few days.

how do I reengage her after this tho? should I just tell her that I wanted space or somethin?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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the_stig

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Pretty clear sign of declining interest and attraction. Whatever tactics you employ will just be postponing the inevitable. If she isn't cheating yet, I'd bet she's keeping her eyes open. For those of us who have been there, the lack of ongoing sex and physical contact is just a dead giveaway that the end is near. Not much else to say.
 

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Have you two been doing something out of your comfort zone recently? something new? if not there is your problem, you need to keep it fun and innovating
If yes, than she is loosing interest in you personally
 

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I am gonna be optimistic and say...maybe she has some trouble she hasnt told you about? maybe she thinks she's pregnant?

DO NOT IGNORE HER FOR A FEW DAYS man. Just put less attention to her than usual, let¡s say around 50%. She texts you twice, reply to one. She calls you four times, call her one or two times, but do not ignore her completely.
What do you want? to break up with her? keep doing what you're doing.

Just be more distant, pay her less atttention. This doesnt mean to ignore her completely.
DO NOT initiate sex for a week, but act normal, act like 'friends'. Ask her once what is up, if she has any problems or something, and see her reaction.

If after a week she hasnt initiated sex...well, then that will mean something's up, something bad...like she's banged another dude...

I would have a look at her phone and email.
 
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