I got a little pissed about it today. I didn't make a scene. I just act like I didn't care and I'm pretty sure she noticed. What bothers me is that I go out of my way to see her, so I've been expecting her to do the same.. I make sure I don't over do it.. like usually in the mornings I hang out with my friends, well a couple of days ago I spent a morning with her. She never even tried to do the same. Also in class, sometimes I sit by her and talk to her.. if I'm by myself she doesn't even go near me.. it's like she ****ing expects me to follow her all the time.. and I'm trying to let her know that I'm not like that. Today I was just like **** it.. I'm not going out of my way to see her... if I run into her, then ok cool, but I'm not going out of my way. I ran into her once in the hallway, we talked a bit, I kissed her and that was it. Then during class I was basically testing her, to see her interest level.. how long it would take her to come over to me.. she used to come over to me all the time.. she would practically beg for me to sit by her.. now she doesn't get near me. I don't know what to do. I know she likes me... it's just the fact that our relationship is hardly equal.. lately I feel like I'm doing all the giving, and she is the one taking.. I'm trying to get her to give a little and she isnt doing ****.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gf makes no attempt to see me.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Put a jolt up her arse and dump her.
Then if you're anything like me you will watch and enjoy the show - and ignore every attempt she makes at contacting you or sounding off at you. Just walk away and don't reply to her calls/messages etc.
BIG HINT: DO NOT GIVE HER THE REASON - IT WILL MAKE YOU LOOK AND SOUND PATHETIC. I.E. 'YOU DON'T GIVE ME ENOUGH ATTENTION ANYMORE' ETC.
Remember: She doesn't DESERVE a reason. Let her wonder and get angry.
Actively check out other girls in class - she will be watching you the whole time. Don't make it obvious but do check out other chicks and act as if you're a free man who'se enjoying being single.
Really make her think you don't care about her at all anymore.
There's no better kick in life then watching a stupid, angry and upset girl who doesn't deserve you make an idiot of herself.
Teach her a lesson in manners and relationships.
The Muscly Jerk
Then if you're anything like me you will watch and enjoy the show - and ignore every attempt she makes at contacting you or sounding off at you. Just walk away and don't reply to her calls/messages etc.
BIG HINT: DO NOT GIVE HER THE REASON - IT WILL MAKE YOU LOOK AND SOUND PATHETIC. I.E. 'YOU DON'T GIVE ME ENOUGH ATTENTION ANYMORE' ETC.
Remember: She doesn't DESERVE a reason. Let her wonder and get angry.
Actively check out other girls in class - she will be watching you the whole time. Don't make it obvious but do check out other chicks and act as if you're a free man who'se enjoying being single.
Really make her think you don't care about her at all anymore.
There's no better kick in life then watching a stupid, angry and upset girl who doesn't deserve you make an idiot of herself.
Teach her a lesson in manners and relationships.
The Muscly Jerk
lmao thats pure gold.. i would PAY you to do that to your gf. it owuld be soo ofunny dumping her without a reason and she WOULD go mad and krazy... hahahah ****! thats like a cirus showmusclyjerk said:
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Here is a critical view: Maybe she doesn't want others to know that you are "with" her! She is opening herself up for other men to approach her!!
Here is a tip: Men are obviously the pursuers - the initiators in this game of chase ---- BUT, once we have the girl, the chase is over and it is up to her to MAINTAIN THE STATUS QUO AND FOLLOW HER MAN!!! iF YOU ARE STILL CHASING AND SHE IS NOT MAINTAINING then something is wrong - refer to my first sentence!!
Here is a tip: Men are obviously the pursuers - the initiators in this game of chase ---- BUT, once we have the girl, the chase is over and it is up to her to MAINTAIN THE STATUS QUO AND FOLLOW HER MAN!!! iF YOU ARE STILL CHASING AND SHE IS NOT MAINTAINING then something is wrong - refer to my first sentence!!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Nice train of thought Last Man Standing...Last Man Standing said:
To a point you have to keep each other challenged though.
I would start treating her as a friend, and when she asks "are you mad at me?" Act stupid!
But the breaking up with her for no reason thing would be like the ultimate ownage!Well, today I practically ignored her. I didn't pursue her at all. She had tons of chances to come up and talk to me.. but she didn't. Oh well her loss. I'm thinking if her act doesn't change by monday then I'm going to next her. I'm ****ing wasting my time with this *****, plus I could do better.
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There ya go mate theres your answer, but wait a while before dumping her, you could always blatently start flirting with other girls in your classes etc, it shows your not a wuss and that you dont depend on her for anything. If she thinks your worth it she's want to be with you if not then next her and game other girls.