"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Gf just sent me this

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Over a Facebook message and as we rarely communicate via Facebook, I'm guessing she found this article on there.

Bit of background info, exclusive 8 months, she's 26 and we are currently apart as I have relocated for work and she is moving up in 6 weeks.

''Interesting article! I know I can (and will) be better xx

http://www.businessinsider.com/lasting-relationships-rely-on-2-traits-2014-11?IR=T ''

Thoughts on this?

Not sure what my response to her should be if at all.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The article was written by a woman. You Should Never Take Dating Advice from Women
 

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Gf just sent me this
EDIT: Eh, I'll change this part tomorrow when I can think straight.


Also, look at the main picture in that article, then look at this one: http://therationalmale.com/

The article was written by a woman. You Should Never Take Dating Advice from Women
Agreed, for the most part.....
 
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I'm not saying I agree with everything in the article, more so I was wondering why she would send it to me with her little message.
 

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Fireballs said:
I'm not saying I agree with everything in the article, more so I was wondering why she would send it to me with her little message.
She sent you the message because she's your girlfriend and wants to be your wife. As your wife, she is then entitled to all your resources and can proceed to suck you dry of your resources. Men want sex, women want resources. It's what women do.

She's a bit insecure about her prospects of marrying you. She's starting to obsess a bit about marriage with you and sent you the article.

As the article says....."scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for". If you can appreciate her finding the article, the value of the article, you two will have another connection. The more connections, the better the relationship. The better the relationship, the higher the odds of marriage. The higher the odds of marriage, the higher the odds of her getting all your resources.

Women only like sex to get good genes or good resources. EVERYTHING they do is to get or keep genes or resources. Ideally if they can get genes or resources from 1 guy, great. If they need 2 guys for this, that's still great.

Women - working hard to ensure the survival of the species, 24/7 for approximately 200,000 years of so.

Actually, the article is pretty good. I think I saw this researcher on 20/20 about 20 years ago. The researcher is quite well know, if I recall.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There is nothing BS about the research itself---it shouldn't come as a surprise that people who have happy relationships show patterns of kindness, attentiveness, reciprocity, and minimal criticism.

As to why your gf sent you that---probably because she felt a little guilty about her own behavior. What gets me is why wouldn't those points have occurred to her before?? I may be a bit of a cynic on this but most women in our generation can and do expect the universe to revolve around them. As for "i can and will be better"....proof is in the pudding buddy.
 
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