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Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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GF just hired as a Promotional Model..any advice?

Rampage1

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My girlfriend has recently been hired as a promotional model and will do a range of promotional activities for her modelling agency a few times a week. Every weekend she will have to go to the clubs to promote new alcoholic drinks and the boys will be hounding her no doubt. She says I have nothing to worry about and I know I don't but the thought of people sleasing over her when I am not around and have no control of the situation is slightly unnerving. I am not insecure at all and am confident she will behave herself as she has more than enough to satisfy her in myself, however, I am sure every male would feel in some way uneasy about it, and considering she is a HB 10 boys try on hit on her all the time, even in front of me, it leaves little to the imagination as to how much she will be hit on when I am not around and when she has to be friendly to promote her product.

I have told her that I am completely fine with it and I fully support her. How would you guys handle the situations??
 

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The fact that you're posting this on here asking for advice leads me to believe that you are indeed insecure about this whole situation. There's nothing you can do here. If she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat. Don't be showing up to the bar or anything like that. You'll only drive her away.
 

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Rampage1 said:
She says I have nothing to worry about and I know I don't but the thought of people sleasing over her when I am not around and have no control of the situation is slightly unnerving.
This... follow by...

I am not insecure at all and am confident she will behave herself as she has more than enough to satisfy her in myself
That... are you sure you aren't insecure?

However, I am sure every male would feel in some way uneasy about it, and considering she is a HB 10 boys try on hit on her all the time, even in front of me, it leaves little to the imagination as to how much she will be hit on when I am not around and when she has to be friendly to promote her product.
First thing you DON'T do is follow her to wherever she is working. NEVER.

Second thing you do is go out somewhere ELSE when she's working. Do anything to keep your mind off of her work. I've seen plenty of women do these jobs and the last thing on their minds was trying to lay with any of the guys. My ex used to be a promotional model and she said that what she loved about me was that I act like I didn't care...

Of course, she was my LTR, so although I did care, I made sure I didn't show it. Because the more upset you become about it, the more you start thinking about it... the more it'll drive you insane.

If you make sure YOU go out on nights she's working, I guarantee she'll be wondering what YOU are doing while she's working... and when she's done with her shift, she might be calling you to know where you are.

Just be chill with it.
If you start acting uneasy and overprotective, you'll only drive her to hit on the guys.

I've seen it happen ONE too many times. And it wasn't pretty.

I have told her that I am completely fine with it and I fully support her. How would you guys handle the situations??[/QUOTE]
 

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yeah well I usually go out on Saturday nights anyway so I doubt that anything will change on that front..

And to OFWAP, the fact that I am posting on this most certainly does NOT mean that I am insecure, just intuitive about a situation that many bf's would be freaking out about. I am just being prepared and would like to know how to best handle the situation. Thanks for the input Kailex
 

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Being a promo model is not as glamorous as you might think.

It's annoying and cheesy work, and most likely your GF will not be able to socialize with one person or group very long anyways. I did it for awhile when in between jobs, and I don't miss it.

But then again, it really depends on the person and personality.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The one who cares least in the relationship wins. She will care more what you are doing when she is not around. Keep it vague - "went out with friends, yeah it was alright"
 

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sorry to tell you what you dont want to but if you were TOTALY confident in your self you would not have posted it as it woulndt ever have enterd your mind!

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the only person who would make her cheat is you, by getting all insecure, needy, etc.... and lowering her Interst Level in you.
you have done every thing right, be supportive to her, and as IQQI said this is prob a rubbish job anyway, its a step on the ladder up!
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a true AFC would get all needy and worried, a "posessive macho man" may turn up to the bars she works in to 'check upon her'...you will remain calm and cool, and supportive, maintianing her HIGH Interest Level in you and so keeping her in love with you!
 
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