GF is sexual - but no sex. What to do?

[lustral]

I've been with this girl for a month and a half. I'm actually her first bf and we've probably done everything sexually that is imaginable, exept for penetration.

I talked to her about it before. She's afraid I'd think she's a slut, and is afraid of what her sister would think of her...even though she stays at my place, and I'd never tell her sister.

She also, sometimes think I'm playing her and I don't really like her. We have some mutual friends that vouch I'm a good guy and don't do things like that. But her friends that don't know me conjure up crazy ideas.

She's told me numerous times she wants it, and wants me badly.
To me, I don't see why we don't do it every night, but then again, I'm a guy. With some of these road blocks, what are some ways I can get her to ease up and go all the way?

Any advice appreciated.

 

[mrRuckus]

Persistance. When you're doing everything "imaginable" just push through. Push a little bit.. see if she stops you.. if she does wait a bit and push again. drive her so damn crazy she can't not give in

if she doesnt give in to hell with her and find a girl without mental issues. stop pandering to female whims

 

[RatPack2007]

Sexual is not SEX

I had a girlfriend my last year of High School that was a bit confusing like that. She and I did everything but sex, and she said; wait six months and if we are still together, we will have sex. Well, 9 months pass and no penatration. I had another girl that liked me, but I was in a relationship and did not pursue her. I should of. I learned a good lesson. Waiting does not help, and if there are other possibilities out there; I would say - GO FOR IT. Just because she wants to wait, does not mean you have to wait. If other women are interested in you; go for it.

 

[SamePendo]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3
Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex, the sex is NEVER worth the wait

When women make you wait for sex you are not their highest priority. There are other issues that you're not aware of that are giving her reservations. This could be another guy she's hoping will work out or she's sexually fearful due to some other reason. Whatever the reason, when women make a man wait for sex it is ALWAYS an attempt to set the frame in her favor. Sexuality is spontaneous chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation of a friendship. It's sex first, then relationship, not the other way around. A woman who wants to fvck you will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, fvck the sh!t out of you and wait patiently inside your closet when your girlfriend comes home early from work - women who want to fvck will find a way to fvck.

I agree with the takeaway methodology in principle, but I'm not a big fan of it overcoming LMR in sexual situations. Aside from the 'date rape' vaugeries, I think finding a woman who is unquestionably ready to go is time better spent than trying to solve her head puzzles. I'm of the opinion that If a girl is that into you she'll fvck regardless of ASD or having her friends in the room videotaping it for the internet. All women are sluts to some degree, you just have to be the right guy to bring it out in them, and this should happen before you go back to her place or the hotel room. If you have to plead your case on the bed, you need to go back to square one and start fresh.

By doing 'everything but' she's attempting to set the frame for a future LTR. It's a bait & switch and if you keep playing her game in her frame she'll not only lose respect for you, but you'll be playing catch up to set the frame back in your own favor. Do NOT allow her to sexually blackmail you in this manner, walk away from it and then judge her behaviors NOT her words. Demonstrate, never explicate. There's something else in play here and the only way to force her hand is to initiate a take-away. From there you should determine if she's even worth the obvious effort she's demanding for her complete sexuality. Remember YOU are the PRIZE and this girl should be just one of many plates you're spinning anyway.

:rock:

 

[Docs]

Back from the depths SamePendo, welcome back!

 

[lustral]

Thanks for the posts. I wasn't going to wait too long, and actually didn't cuz we had sex last night. Basically, I bought some flavored condoms. Insisted that i put them on while she gave me a BJ. Along with the 'eveything but sex', there was dry humping. This time, I teased her a bit but rubbing it on her puss. Tested the waters by inserting it a bit...no resistance, put it in more. Eventually we were humping like rabbits.