Gf is pissing me off... helppp.

[Checkmate12]

Alright guys, help me out here.

Recently I moved closer to campus which happens to be just a couple miles away from my gf. This has made it extremely easy for us to see each other. About two weeks ago we went about a week straight of seeing each other everyday. Mistake, i know. But it was awesome, things were perfect, I could basically see the girls eyes gleaming with love. She couldn't stop talking about our future, etc. Well towards the end of that week things started to go stale. A couple little arguments, less laughter, snappiness, etc. Not unusual after spending too much time with someone.

Well its been about 5 days since that week together ended and since she's been less affectionate, there has been less communication, etc. She has exhibited an overall decrease in desire for me. (Still amazes me that after a couple sub par dates in a row women can completely forget all of the awesome dates that happened in the 6 months prior).

So all in all, I have this instinctive sense that I'm being taken for granted and complacency has set in. She doesn't value me the way she did even a week ago. Its starting to genuinely piss me off because (in a non arrogant way) I'm a quality guy. I withdrew a lot of attention from her over the past few days but it still doesn't seem like its enough. I haven't seen her interest peak again yet.

Should I just continue to withdraw attention and avoid seeing her? I'm at a loss. Someone help please cause I'm a bit taken by surprise by how quickly our flame simmers.

 

[GotED?]

She found your true AFC stench after you lost your frame to the direction of your game.

When a woman argued that means she's lost respect for you that means you lost your frame that means you lost your game game that means you became AFC prone WHICH means time to NEXT.

Mistakes you made as AFC guilty as charged:

- you cared way more than her
- you did not emotionally protect yourself
- you pedestalized her
- you suffocated her by neediness
- you try to qualify yourself to her (oh I am quality!) when she should be the one doing so.
- you chased her
- you failed to act indifferent
- you failed to walk away at anytime from a woman as soon as she disrespected you
- you are having beginning stage of one itis
- on the road to AFC-ville




Very hard to re establish your frame once a woman loses respect for a man.

Exodus

 

[rascal99v]

Recently I moved closer to campus which happens to be just a couple miles away from my gf.

This is what happens when you make it easier for a woman. You are no longer a challenge. She in return can treat you like a piece of sh!t. You were too busy doing everything for her instead of thinking what is best for you. You were too busy catering to her needs. She doesn't care about your needs. Now you are stuck living near a less affectionate girlfriend, all for what? Doesn't take long for the flame to burn out when she loses it for you. You're near a college campus. Start meeting new women and ditch this chick. She will still treat you like sh!t the more you have any contact with her.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Yeah don't bother with American women at all.

 

[El Payaso]

She had started the breakup process in her mind. Give it a few more days or weeks and she will complete the act. Even worse, she might not. She'll keep you around as an emotional tissue paper while she f*cks other guys.

 

[collosuss]

Alright guys, help me out here.

Recently I moved closer to campus which happens to be just a couple miles away from my gf. This has made it extremely easy for us to see each other. About two weeks ago we went about a week straight of seeing each other everyday. Mistake, i know. But it was awesome, things were perfect, I could basically see the girls eyes gleaming with love. She couldn't stop talking about our future, etc. Well towards the end of that week things started to go stale. A couple little arguments, less laughter, snappiness, etc. Not unusual after spending too much time with someone.

Well its been about 5 days since that week together ended and since she's been less affectionate, there has been less communication, etc. She has exhibited an overall decrease in desire for me. (Still amazes me that after a couple sub par dates in a row women can completely forget all of the awesome dates that happened in the 6 months prior).

So all in all, I have this instinctive sense that I'm being taken for granted and complacency has set in. She doesn't value me the way she did even a week ago. Its starting to genuinely piss me off because (in a non arrogant way) I'm a quality guy. I withdrew a lot of attention from her over the past few days but it still doesn't seem like its enough. I haven't seen her interest peak again yet.

Should I just continue to withdraw attention and avoid seeing her? I'm at a loss. Someone help please cause I'm a bit taken by surprise by how quickly our flame simmers.

Bruh your at college... Spin plates man

 

[Checkmate12]

I understand this is a ptoblem, I'm just not sure how to control how much I do or don't care. That's like saying "hey, don't like pizza anymore."... okayyy, I can try not to think about pizza and I can call in chinese instead but at the end of the day my fondness for pizza has remained constant.

 

[abe0]

Sorry to hear that.....it almost sounds like a marriage...,.seeing each other every day and eventually she knows she has you by the b*lls. I think the best you can do right now is to act indifferent and do to her what she is doing to you in hopes that she starts to miss you and comes back to you. You have to love women.....six months of I love you...and BAM!!!!....they just shut off like a like bulb. Abe

 

[IndeedSir]

Your pizza analogy is perfect. You love pizza. Now eat nothing but pizza for a week straight. Guess what? You're the pizza to her! Don't feel bad though, mate. I did the exact same thing with my last girl. It sucks. Withdraw attention, be aloof and do anything you can think of to trigger her hamster. She needs to think why won't he see me, etc. Uphill battle though. Also, Abe, I know right?

 

[foreverAFC]

familiarity breeds contempt

 

[escaleraroyal]

ask yourself what are you looking for? gf or fbuddy?

if gf, then why are you getting piss to see her every day? i guess that was a test for you two to see how compatible you are. guess what you dont really like her.

if fbuddy then why dont u just tell her u only have time on (insert day here)

 

[JoeMarron]

I understand the whole familiarity breeds contempt concept but a chick getting snappy with you after only a week is a huge red flag. Sure it's important to keep things scarce, give her the gift of missing you, etc. during the beginning stages of a relationship but after awhile you should be able to spend more time with your girl without her morphing into a b!tch. Since you're of the relationship mindset I imagine that eventually you'll want to live with a woman and perhaps even start a family. I know there's plenty of married men here with relatively drama free wives. Either your game is not on point or this chick is not worth a relationship. If she keeps this up you might as well cut her off now before she does it first.