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GF is over-reacting...what to do? *Cliffs!

Triple T

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Okay so Heres the situation she SERIOUSLY over-reacted in (cliffs at the bottom)

Me, her and a close friend of ours were walking back to my house after a fun little walk to the friend's work to drop off her resume. On the way back we also went to the video store to pick up a couple movies to watch at my place.

Soooo...on the way back.
We're joking around having a fun time with each other. (She tried to give me a piggyback ride :crackup: ....failed miserably hehe) And fun stuff like that.
Well, she stops to tie her shoe when we're walking and the friend looks at me and says "Yo, we should start running :D" and I agreed. (being playful)
So we start running, she looks up sees us jogging away from her and says "HEY! waaaaiiiit!!" then takes off after us.

We all run for like 10 seconds before she stops, and then we look back and stop as well. We wait for her to come to us but she doesn't...
She stands there and takes out my phone from her purse (i gave it to her to hold on to) and says, "come here if you want it :p "
I started to walk over but then the friend stops me and is like "Noooo, you can't give in!!!"
So both sides wait for the other side to come...after awhile I got annoyed and just walked over and my friend agreed and just walked behind me.

When we got over I knew she was upset by her face.
I got my phone and looked up at her and said "come on lets go" while going in for her hand.
She not only pulls her hand away from me but says "You guys seem to like ditching me, why don't you do that instead? :mad: "
Then I say "Oh come on we were just joking around,"
She replies with "Whatever, I'm going home."

She then walks home with us tagging along behind at a distance. I wanted to come run up behind her, hug her and just say "_____ come on don't be like this, we're sorry" but as soon as I started out towards her my friend stops me AGAIN! and is like, "let her cool off man"
Since this friend has known her since they were like 2 and she has never gotten mad at him, I trusted his judgement and stayed.

Well, I missed my chance to get her in person. Soo, the friend decides to text her at my house. I don't really remember exactly what it went like but it basically said "sorry, for angering accidently and sorry sorry sorry blah blah blah"

I didn't think a text would suffice like my friend so I decide to call her. It goes longer than how I described but I'm giving you guys the summary. She picks up and...
I say: "_____ Are you okay?"
Her: "Why?"
Me: "Because you were really upset earlier"
Me: "we're sorry..."
then silence....
I heard movement in the background and stuff, and then i look at my phone and it says "Disconnected" Meaning she HUNG UP on me!

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By this time I'm pissed at her. I don't take this kind of SH!T from nobody.
My friend says to wait til she cools off more though, so thats what i've been doing. She got pissed off for the stupidest reason. F*cking stupid mood swing!
THis has happened ONCE to me before (where she gets pissed for the stupidest reasons) and it ended fine with me talking to her over msn, but not this time.
Btw, we've been going out for almost 2 months.

***CLIFFS: (read the entire post for important details)
-We were having a fun time with another friend
-While walking back to my house for a planned movie me and the friend jokingly start joggin away from her.
-she gets mad and walks home.
-We get back to my house, friend sends an apologetic text to her phone
-I call her shortly after
-She hangs up on me...
-We are stunned.

What should I do now? What went wrong?
 

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You didn't do anything wrong. So, you should not have apologized. She's the one being a dumb *****. Stand your ground. She'll be mad, but she'll have more respect for you. Talk to her about it, sure, but don't apologize or "try to make it right."
 

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Adam B said:
You didn't do anything wrong. So, you should not have apologized. She's the one being a dumb *****. Stand your ground. She'll be mad, but she'll have more respect for you. Talk to her about it, sure, but don't apologize or "try to make it right."
Yea, that was my first instinct. But my friend thats close to her seemed to sway my judgement, so I said sorry ONCE. I guess it wasn't too bad, I didn't go entirely AFC. But yea, thanks for the advice. I'll talk to her later. :up:
 

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Well guys, she sent me a message, this is how it went:
"I hate you, I hate you! I hate YOU!
I can never stay mad at your for more than 2 mins without missing you!! :cry: I almost cried last night, I miss you so much. I'm sorry for over-reacting. Message me back? pleeeeaaase. I'm sorry"

hehe, nice :D
 
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