"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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gf is losing interest

dre007

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ok so this is gonnabe short and to the point. my gf of one month is losing interest in me becuz she is extremely outgoing and I'm more of an introvert. I start getting outgoing when I'm comfortable with ppl. when I hang out with her friends its sort of hard to make conversation and she has already gotten mad at me becuz she says that I shuld be open with them. its just that I need 2 feel more comfortable with them and don't really kno them. I need to know how to be more social becuz she is losing interest fast. I mean I've done everything 2 win her so far. its just being social is the hard part for me. how can I improve being social with her friends, I mean usually when we go out her friends are mostly girls.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AlexTheGreat

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the problem is that you're far too self-conscious of what her friends will think of you, or what she will think of you. Don't worry about any of that. Think as if you were judging them instead of the other way around. You are there to be impressed by them; you give them a chance and wait to be wooed. Put the pressure of being entertaining off of yourself and onto them, and you will see, you'll be much more relaxed and calm, and outgoing.
 

chancer

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Strive to be more social for yourself. Stop being afraid of your gf getting mad or what her friends think. Makes plans and choose what YOU want to do and where YOU want to go. If you want to work on your social skills invite some of your friends out too. That way you can split and regroup when you like, and you wont seem all needy hanging around her all night.
 

MacAvoy

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Its over with her, however use this time to practice being more outgoing, I would suggest reading some books on conversation skills.
 

zinc64

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Man, your GF doesn't like you enough right now. If she did, it wouldn't be that big of a deal. So you are obviously screwing up in other areas as well. Sounds like you are trying too hard to please her. First of all, if you don't feel like hanging with her friends then just make other plans. But if you do hang out with them...just make as much convo as you can with them and don't cling to your girl's side like some wuss.

Do you have any guy friends? Make plans for guy nights out more often if you do.

My ex Gf..who was obsessed with me...always wanted me to hang with her and her friends. After two times, I let my GF know that I didn't want to hang with her friends but would tolerate it every once in a while to consider her feelings. My GF respected me for that. If you don't want to hang with her friends you don't have to....your GF is not your boss dude. Let her know that she is not your entire world by your actions. There is more to life than some girl you have dated for only a month.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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