"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

GF : I sense bad news, what do I do?

nvictor

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2005
Messages
212
Reaction score
1
Location
Fredericksburg
DJs,

She's got a test today. She promised to give me a sign.
No sign. I sense the bad news. She didn't do well or
didn't get the job.

What should I do?

Call first? Doesn't seems like a DJ...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

nvictor

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2005
Messages
212
Reaction score
1
Location
Fredericksburg
Ok. Do you know why I ask? I don't know if it's a girl test.
So that she would say later "You didn't call" or "You would
have called if you really care..."

On the other hand, it's almost 7:30pm here, the test was
an hour test at 5pm. So...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

lougv22

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 26, 2006
Messages
31
Reaction score
0
nvictor said:
Ok. Do you know why I ask? I don't know if it's a girl test.
So that she would say later "You didn't call" or "You would
have called if you really care..."

On the other hand, it's almost 7:30pm here, the test was
an hour test at 5pm. So...
I would call her to ask how the test went. What do you have to lose if you do that?
 

Faded Image

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 17, 2004
Messages
428
Reaction score
7
Age
45
Location
Fort Bragg, NC
Dude, she's your girlfriend. Stop thinking whether it's DJ thing or not and call her.
 
Top