gf having lunch with guy friend

[headFirst]

Just do the same thing to her.. Be like well that's fine I'll prob go to lunch with (insert girl's name here) this weekend. We've been meaning to catch up.

 

[gspshields2]

Go out with other girls. Is this really hard to do?

 

[Bible_Belt]

#1 - Men and women can't be friends.

#2 - Every woman is a slvt at least some of the time.

 

[vatoloco]

What would you do if your gf said to you: 'listen, this guy friend of mine (a guy whom she met three years ago during a summer trip, who lives in a different city, whom I havent met) is coming tomorrow here for two days because of a business trip, so we agreeded to have lunch, ok?'

"Sure thing sweetheart! You go have fun, okay?"

I would then proceed to never pick up her calls again. I'd stick a fork in it cause it'd be done! Finito.

Edit:

From my experience I can say two things:

1)the guy going to lunch with a girls definitely wants to fvck her, no guy meet a girl for lunch between tiring business activities if he doesnt have any attraction toward her.

QFT

He wants to fuck her. She knows this [deep down] and is keen to getting [at least] attention from this other male who isn't you.

What does that tell you?

 

[Mistic]

Tell her, "This is weird. A girl I used to date is coming into town. I broke up with her a few months before we met. She contacted me on FB a couple times but I ignored her. She really wants to meet for DINNER while she is in town. I feel I owe her that, so i'm gonna go meet her, OK. You dont have to wait up cuz i'll probably be home a little late."

 

[youngmack]

Tell her, "This is weird. A girl I used to date is coming into town. I broke up with her a few months before we met. She contacted me on FB a couple times but I ignored her. She really wants to meet for DINNER while she is in town. I feel I owe her that, so i'm gonna go meet her, OK. You dont have to wait up cuz i'll probably be home a little late."

Genius

 

[pdx1138]

Lunch is harmless.

Dinner would be no go.

About one time a year I have lunch with a female friend I've known for 20 years. We fooled around once a long time ago, but never went all the way.

She's married, 2 kids.

She is attractive, but sex is the furthest thing from my mind with her.

 

[Desdinova]

Anyway, what would you do if your gf said that she's gonna have lunch with a guy friend.

I don't let this 5hit bother me. Why? Because 97% of the population are AFCs. I'm more interesting, fun and confident than them. The woman also knows that I will ditch her a55 if she misbehaves.

You're going to get competition no matter how hot or ugly your woman is. Men love pu55y and they'll try to woo your woman with what society says works: dinner, compliments, looking for pity, and talking about how intelligent they are. These things do NOT spark a woman's emotions.

Now, what are YOU doing to spark her emotions? Being funny, spontaneous, confident, sexual, and even occasionally pissed off will keep her emotions fluctuating on a regular basis. If you're just sitting around every night watching movies with her and then having missionary sex to get yourself off, she's going to find dinner with some other dude more exciting than spending time doing the same old boring things she's been doing with you. Why? Because it's different, and different gives her emotional fluctuation.

When a woman is attracted to her bf, dinner with some other dude is nice, but she'll be happy to come back to the world of excitement she has with you - or what she SHOULD have with you.

My gf accidentally left herself logged into fb on my computer, so I looked at some of the messages she had from the time we started dating. The first one I saw was one of her male fb friends telling her she looks sexy. Her response? "Thanks, my bf things so too." The dude got jealous and gave her 5hit for mentioning little old me.

A second message had one of the guys asking "how come we never ended up in a relationship?" Her response to him was "because I like older guys".

Should I be worried about any of this stuff? No, at least not right now. If her behavior takes a sudden turn, then I'll know she's zeroing in on a new target and it's time to dump her. Until then, there's no point in worrying about dudes trying to steal my gf (and I honestly can't blame them, she's hot!) It's going to happen and it's completely out of my control.

You're best bet is to learn to live with it.

 

[WorkingDJ]

This site at times is ridiculous.

It's just lunch guys. if she is going to cheat, its going to happen, whether he likes it or not. At least she told him what she was going to go do, to see if he's ok with it. Nothing sneaky about it.

 

[Jitterbug]

Nothing says no string attached sex better than being out of town on a work conference trip.

I've been that guy - also a work conference trip - your GF is going to have lunch with (although I had no idea she was in a relationship). Yeah it's "just lunch" - my arse.

If it's just friendship and she is very much attracted to you, she will insist on bringing you to meet with that friend. Women love showing off their (new) man, especially to friends they haven't seen in a while. That's probably the #1 reason young women get into relationship - the status. If she isn't trying to show you off, something is up.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Seriously. Let the chick go to lunch with the dude. If she's going to cheat. She's going to cheat. I'd sit back and play it cool and see if little red flags start popping up then I'd be slowly and non-chalantly making plans, and taking actions to cut off all ties with her then go complete ghost never to return. Period.

But remember...Right now you we're just given a "get out of jail free" card to pull at any time.

 

[SharinganUser]

Lunch, no lunch, who gives a ****? You are coming on here and asking random ****ing strangers whether or not YOUR gf should have lunch with some dude you never met before?

Obviously it's bothering you a little bit, otherwise you would not have made this thread. I wouldn't dump her on this alone, so what I think you need to do is calm the **** down and just keep evaluating her as a girlfriend. That way you'll be able to put stuff like this into context and decide if she is a slut or not.

I'll give you the best piece of advice that I was given when I worked as a bouncer a few years ago. Your girl can do whatever the **** she wants on the dance floor, but she is going home with you. That's the kind of confidence that you need.

I'd also AMOG the guy when she told me that, make a joke about how cute they would be together, basically reverse psychology.

Just man up and quit worrying about it is the best thing you can do.

 

[Trump]

You guys are gonna confuse the hell out of him! One person saying "it's win-win!" and the next saying "this is lose-lose!".

I swear this site is like the stock market and we are the analysts giving our expert recommendations. The advice changes every 8 seconds.

What the hell is the OP to do when he gets 25 different pieces of advice on a simple question?

 

[Masculinity]

I always make sure to get the "what you can do I can do" point across to any woman i'm dating shiny polished crystal clear. She tells me this and i'd just reply "I didn't know I could have lunch with girls, you should have told me earlier." And totally start my mid day game strong. Remember, although girls can get laid whenever they want, they generally don't pursue lunches for a quick bang like a guy would, provided she is a decent girl in the first place. She's just provided you with a reason and method to replace her a$$ and all while you are still banging her. Win, Win... next that HO.

Also when she sees you're capitalizing on this she may start to consider you differently so it might make things better between you. Personally just seeing that she is interested in this kind of thing is a permanent turn off for me, her fate would be sealed in my camp. She just downgraded herself to a bed buddy that thinks she's my GF. In Miami, strip clubs feed you free lunch, steak and burgers and stuff.

This ^

I could not agree more, +1 Rep.

 

[donking]

Drop her, get another. Find a woman without male "friends" and you will be happier.

 

[Mistic]

I was attempting to rep jitterbug, but apparently ive repped him too much already and im not allowed for now. So rep in the thread for best answer.

 

[Single4Life]

If your girl was 100% into you, she wouldn't want to go on a lunch date with another guy, ever.

Get ready to find an exit strategy for this relationship. Pillage everything you can secretly before the invasion comes.

 

[blueeyedgent]

An Alpha challenges his woman when he disagrees with her or she disrespects him. He makes his intentions clear and lays down the law in no uncertain terms.

It seems that this really doesn't bother you. I'm probably painted with the same brush, I just don't get jealous easily. However I think she is disrespecting you and you are playing with fire. She should have invited you along if this is for real.

 

[SoSuave666]

People keep referencing jealousy.

For the umpteempth time, it is not about jealousy.

It is about your girl spending time with a man she has either fvked, or who wants to fvk her.

Do you want your woman hanging around men that want to fvk her? Are you really cool with that?

And if so, what are you going to tell her when she wants to hang out with a guy who is capable of knocking her panties off? Suddenly she can't do it?

Set the rules in the beginning, it's far better than having to change your strategy mid-relationship.

Technically speaking, all guys probably want to fvck her. If she is a 7 or above, she is probably turning people away at work, while she is shopping, or any other various activity in public.

Let's go over your possible scenarios:

1.) You voice your concern about her having lunch with a guy friend. She doesn't go and resents you for being too controlling. Good looking women hate being controlled.

2.) You voice your concern and she ends up going anyway while being pissed at you. This probably makes his intentions a distinct possibility.

3.) You say it's ok for her to go and she does whatever she pleases. Maybe she doesn't want to do anything with him, maybe she does. Maybe she acts on it. Maybe she doesn't.

I don't see any way that you can justify telling her not to go. It's a no-win situation. If she is going to cheat on you, she probably wouldn't tell you she was going out to lunch with some guy. I presume your girl is attractive. She gets hit on a bunch bro, and she has probably been to lunch with guys from work or other areas of her life without even telling you. Of course the guy wants to bang her. That doesn't mean SHE wants to bang HIM. Like I said before, we all know that orbiters are all around women. They NEED that type of support from beta dudes.

Your best play is to make her jealous in some way as well. You say you aren't jealous, but clearly you are. Whatever way you want to beat around the bush, you are concerned about some other dude wanting to bang your girl. That's jealousy. My suggestion would be to either go to a ball game or something with an "old friend" (girl) or to leave up an email from an ex or something on your computer. Something where your girl will obviously find it, but you won't bring it up. You need to let her know you have other options as well, and if she bounces this sh!t is over because you got girls lined up too.

 

[SgtSplacker]

My advice so far has been simply about taking appropriate action. I would never tell a girl what to do like that, nor would I complain about anything to her. The words "I don't feel comfortable with you bla bla bla" will never leave my mouth. Why? Because that makes it all about you, and this is not about you it's about her. This is all about equality and reality and that's it. If she is not willing to embrace common sense that's her problem not yours. I'm not stupid and i'm not going to deny my common sense to be cooler in her eyes, it's insulting to my intelligence and I just don't feel like doing it how bout them apples? I don't play stupid trust games. This is not an open relationship in any way, sense, or form. I have no intention of being the coolest guy she has ever met FVCK THAT. I'm not cool, i'm real, i'm me. I make enough sacrifices to conduct myself properly in a relationship and i'll be damned if she's not making them for me as well. I am not some spineless whelp. I'm the leader of this relationship, I am responsible for this, this is mine and if it's not making me happy I would rather spend time with someone that is. To me this is the relationship survival of the fittest, the weak ones must die.

She has to learn that you are not some complaining brat, you are a man of action. And if you see her doing something wrong things are going to change and she may not like the consequences of HER actions. This is not about me being pissed off for a little while, or whether she can get away with it today or not. It's her choice what kind of relationship she is in. This is not subjective, this is reality. If you are going to hang out with men, I can hang out with girls. And we all know how things tend to magically happen when two attracted people are left alone together.

Relationships are all about making sacrifices right? This is just lunch with a friend right? Why compromise your relationship if it's not a big deal? Does she really think you are not going to mind? Does she really think you are not going to be suspicious? How hard is it to say hey listen I have a boyfriend and I don't think it's right. He's just a friend she knew for a month right?

She needs to get used to listening to me. She needs to get used to pleasing me. It's up to me to be fair and just. And her job is to follow my lead. Otherwise you are messing with the way nature intended it to be. And we always know things don't always come out good when that happens. You are the dominant one here, and it's either your way or the high way.

Anyway this is probably some kind of sh*t test dude, don't fail it by being a pushover.