"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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GF had sex with ex and met him again afterwards

LorenzoVonM

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She showed you a massive amount of disrespect and I can ensure you that you are probably getting 20% of the real story. A girl that cares about her relationship and is head over heels for a new guy is not going to jeopardize things by going on a trip with an ex after you are exclusive. Whether she did anything or not is irrelevant.

By merely putting herself in that position she is disregarding you and f'ing with your head. Shows a total lack of knowing healthy boundaries. If you brought it up I guarantee it would be a drama sh1tfest with her turning things back on you with the classic "I can't believe you don't trust me?". If she doesn't have the maturity to understand this type of boundary, rest assured that she will test it again.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LiveFreeX

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OP you are a retard, dump her. I swear to god men have no self respect anymore.

Makes me sick that people actually put up with this behavior, OP you make me sick. Go on Jerry Springer if you intend to stay with her and advertise your stupidity to the world.
 

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Man, my bpd ex used to pull the same crap. Very good at convincing me otherwise. What happend? I dealt with similar situations for over a year. Worst stress of my life. Your her possession to kill time and using you to make her ex jealous, but hes still banging her so hes noy jealous and shes gonna continue the same crap, every month itll be something differeny. Gtfo, before you waste months of your life being a good guy to a skeez!
 

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jay07 said:
Man, my bpd ex used to pull the same crap. Very good at convincing me otherwise. What happend? I dealt with similar situations for over a year. Worst stress of my life. Your her possession to kill time and using you to make her ex jealous, but hes still banging her so hes noy jealous and shes gonna continue the same crap, every month itll be something differeny. Gtfo, before you waste months of your life being a good guy to a skeez!
same happen to me braahh.

my ex was pregnant and so she went to get an abortion she claimed she didnt have a ride so she resorted to calling her ex bf to giver her a ride to the clinic to get the abortion and drove her back home too. it was probably hes kid that she aborted and not mine :crackup:

the load of bullsshhhiiitt that u get to go thru with some of this *** dumpster bishes is unbelievable..

get the hell away from this chick OP.
 

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I don't think anyone has pointed out the obvious...

Why in the BLUE HELL is this woman admitting that she banged her ex at ANY point of the relationship... pre/post/during?

That's a HUGE red glad in itself. THE biggest red flag before anything else happened. Then she tries to validate it by saying it was BEFORE you two were official.

Not for nothing, but any woman who openly admits to something like that is getting tossed aside.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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All this talk about what the OP should do is ok, but I'm curious of what this chicks ex is doing right to get to fvck her while getting someone else to pay for her meals and all the other bullshyt.
 

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BigBCTD said:
All this talk about what the OP should do is ok, but I'm curious of what this chicks ex is doing right to get to fvck her while getting someone else to pay for her meals and all the other bullshyt.
the dude is probably fvcking her better than op
 

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Maybe but how did it get to that point before that happened.
 

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It was a one-day trip. she said, thats how she wanted to make him clear that it's definitely over.
Who goes on a ski trip to tell their ex it's definitely over?

"Well I might as well spend money to go skiing and tell my ex it's done for good, that's way easier than calling her or meeting her somewhere for free."

She said it was a one day trip, but how do you know? Did you see her when she left that morning and later that night when she got back? Or did you not see her for a weekend and she said "Oh well Saturday we went skiing and got back that night." She's lying to you unless you know for certain when she left and got back.
 

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BigBCTD said:
Maybe but how did it get to that point before that happened.
That's easy, her ex probably dumped her and went NC, she came crying back to him and he took her on as an FB by feeding her false hope.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kailex said:
I don't think anyone has pointed out the obvious...

Why in the BLUE HELL is this woman admitting that she banged her ex at ANY point of the relationship... pre/post/during?

That's a HUGE red glad in itself. THE biggest red flag before anything else happened. Then she tries to validate it by saying it was BEFORE you two were official.

Not for nothing, but any woman who openly admits to something like that is getting tossed aside.


I agree 100%

Normally if this happened before she became official, a girl wouldn't mention it.

However the fact that she did was probably for two reasons:

1) ease her guilt

2) because it most likely happened more than once


The problem now is the OP will never trust his gf. When she goes out to run some errands, doesn't respond to a text, says she doesn't feel like going out etc; he's going to become paranoid thinking she's riding someone else's Anthony Weiner.

I think the worst part is they work together! Hopefully this isn't a full time, real job; but even if it is you need to man up and drop this skank.










PIMP
 

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Jair213 said:
the dude is probably fvcking her better than op
Regardless, he's being more alpha. This is a time when indifference works.

Oh yeah, alpha fux, beta bux. Or, alpha lays, beta pays.

His princess is so in another castle. And the OP's betatude keeps making her go there! Why the f**k are more and more men putting up with women's bullsh*t? And do men even have any f**kin' standards anymore? No wonder why we have BBW's and I have yet to see an online dating site for big beautiful men.

Time to leave the courtroom. This case makes me want some Kool-Aid.
 
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