"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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GF going to South Beach Miami...

Slick101

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Thanks alot to everyone helping me...

I will demonstrate to her my new boundries...

I am wondering weather to do this over the phone or in person.... I know its better in person but I want to do this ASAP

Because next time I can actually see her is next week thursday

I have a webcam,,,, maybe I can do it over that

Let me know guys
thankss
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Do it over the phone.

Doing it over the phone shows you have the same lack of respect for her that she has for you.

She's not important enough to talk to in person and she needs to come to that realization on her own and she will if she's not a complete idiot.
 

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Just read this entire thread. Definitely looking forward to a happy ending with you banging other chicks by the time she's back and being the MAN. She will not know what hit her. It's amazing how in these type of threads it pretty much 90% turns out that the chick was openly courting the idea of sucking some other guy's d***.
 

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Slick101 said:
Over the phone is better, really. Webcams are for girls and people who love each other, and she's betrayed your trust.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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she could do something
you do know why girls love spring break in college dont you?
nobody will ever find out what a girl does when she's in a foreign state

If it makes you feel any better, a girl Im currently gaming is going to college.
 

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Whatever, you're a woman. You wouldn't know what you like or don't like anyway.

Kontroller made a great point. If this girl had any respect for him, she wouldn't INSIST on going to a place like South Beach alone. We all know what type of thing happens down there, and it's total bvllshyt that she'd even consider going there without him.

It's the same old crap. If you throw a fit, she'll go anyway and cheat on you. If you act totally fine with it, she'll go anyway and cheat on you. She's a hor, dump her.
Actually, Lovely Lady is more than qualified to give good , helpful advice.
And most men would do well listening to her point of view.
In addition, just because some men here have had a narrow experience of women, does not make their opinion gained from that very narrow pool TRUE for ALL women.
Many men, and women often have difficulty expressing what they like or dont like, many men and women have trouble even recognizing what they do and dont like.
Part of maturity is recognizing these things.

And part of maturity is recognizing when another person has done an ample amount of self reflection to get there, as Lovely Lady has.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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justiceseeker said:
What the hell does she do for a living if she can afford that damn place?
lol her friend won the tickets.....

and why did someone just ask for her hotel...? someone wants 2 find her....... :O
 

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Dood if she wanted to cheat on you she wouldnt have to go to Miami Beach to cheat on you provided she is not extremely ugly. Let her go and whatever happens happens.
 

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So here is the update...

I saw my psychologist yesterday and she knows my whole situation for the past year I have been with my girl....

I told her what I was about to do after I left her office.... because my girl gets out of work at 10 30 PM

She actually didnt quite agree with me and gave me another idea

She told me to juss tell her "I have been thinking about it and I dont like the fact that you are going to South beach with your friend"..... but the decision is up to you

THATS IT!!!

I was like what about explaining to her my new boundries and telling her to break up.....

Shes like.... there is no point of you explaining to her WHY you are not liking the fact that she is not going...... because if I tell her I have new boundries and I wont be there when you get back..... it is a threat.. and she WILL most likely go and cheat

This way I am calm,,,,, and I let the decision go to her.... and when she comes back.... then we set up new boundries!!

I didnt talk to my girl yesterday about South Beach... because I was confused with her idea

What do you guys think about that idea?
 

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Slick you seem like a cool guy and your just trying to get some answers but im going to give you some solid advice here,... it might not be what you want to hear but from experience i can tell you, these things happen..

Shes going to South Beach, OK thats fine but if your girlfriend is attractive then shes definitly going to get hit on by guys. How will she react if a good looking dude approaches her, we dont know, you dont know because girls have a tendency to act and feel different when their B/F is not around.

No one on this forum knows your girlfriend, Only you do. However, shes a girl and we all deal with girls and pretty much all of them act the same at one point of another. She probably wants to go and just have a good time in florida BUT things happen and the bad part about it all is that if anything ever did happen. you would never know and i believe thats what kills you inside.

Even if she did decide to confess something to you, it for sure wont be the whole story because she a) does not want you to break up with her b) she doesnt want to seem slutty c) she just doesnt want you to know anything.

The really F**ked up part though is lets say she ended up going to a club/bar/lounge.... and she danced with a couple of guys, she will NOT, i repeat, will NOT tell you that a guy was grinding his D*ck on her ass because she feels "it was just dancing" and its "nothing" to bring up. meanwhile she will tell you that she just hung out with her friend and thats all.

Overall, You have to make the decision based on her actions while shes there and when she gets back, if you want to break up with her. After your previous posts though, i believe she doesnt fully care about your feeling based on the story about that guy she was going to go see 2hours away.

My honest opinion, buckle up because chances are if shes tries to pull one on you again, You may have to cut the cord and rebound and find yourself a much better girl for you.
 

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In2theGame said:
Slick you seem like a cool guy and your just trying to get some answers but im going to give you some solid advice here,... it might not be what you want to hear but from experience i can tell you, these things happen..

Shes going to South Beach, OK thats fine but if your girlfriend is attractive then shes definitly going to get hit on by guys. How will she react if a good looking dude approaches her, we dont know, you dont know because girls have a tendency to act and feel different when their B/F is not around.

No one on this forum knows your girlfriend, Only you do. However, shes a girl and we all deal with girls and pretty much all of them act the same at one point of another. She probably wants to go and just have a good time in florida BUT things happen and the bad part about it all is that if anything ever did happen. you would never know and i believe thats what kills you inside.

Even if she did decide to confess something to you, it for sure wont be the whole story because she a) does not want you to break up with her b) she doesnt want to seem slutty c) she just doesnt want you to know anything.

The really F**ked up part though is lets say she ended up going to a club/bar/lounge.... and she danced with a couple of guys, she will NOT, i repeat, will NOT tell you that a guy was grinding his D*ck on her ass because she feels "it was just dancing" and its "nothing" to bring up. meanwhile she will tell you that she just hung out with her friend and thats all.

Overall, You have to make the decision based on her actions while shes there and when she gets back, if you want to break up with her
. After your previous posts though, i believe she doesnt fully care about your feeling based on the story about that guy she was going to go see 2hours away.

My honest opinion, buckle up because chances are if shes tries to pull one on you again, You may have to cut the cord and rebound and find yourself a much better girl for you.
Can you elaborate on this

Thankss
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I expect to see a "How do I get back with my Ex?" thread from SLICK any week now.
 

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Slick101 said:
Can you elaborate on this

Thankss
What i mean is, When she's in Miami, Is she going to call you? If you call her is she going to pick up? If she does pick up will she cut you off quick?. Also for example, Lets say its 11:30pm and your just chilling at home or whatever and your talking to her on the phone, how are you going to feel if she's telling you "My friend and I are getting ready to go out tonight" <~~ That right there is a strong indication that shes either looking to get attention from the hundres of horny guys out there or is preparing to POSSIBLY mess around if the right guy comes gaming her. If you call her late at night and she doesnt pick up, well..... she could be sleeping but we both know thats not going to happen, she is most likely out having "fun" and she doesnt want to pick up your phone call. If she starts giving you an attitude for no reason, then you would have to suspect something is wrong.
 

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Slick101 said:
Can you elaborate on this

Thankss

Slick I skimmed through this post... but you mentioned in the past that your girlfriend met some guy she claimed to "just be friends" with and then went to meet him at a club.....


Am I the only 1 seeing something wrong here?
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
I expect to see a "How do I get back with my Ex?" thread from SLICK any week now.
HaHa, hopefully not. I Hope in the coming weeks, Slick posts something on the lines of "How do I handle 20 Plates im spinning?". We shall see.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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