GF goes SAD/madMODE advice needed

[blind_one]

GF goes SAD/madMODE advice needed - REEDITED for comprehension

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Im not gonna bore you so I'll try and cut this short.


A while ago me and my GF went sunbathing. She changed subject to my best friend Michael. She heard from her aquaitance that he was bragging bout his sexual conquests and that he's manwhoring.


That Aquaitance was on both my gf's and Michaels fb friendlist so she was sure it was him, they knew where he lives ( he was renting a room for the gossip girl, turns out 3 years ago ).


She was pretty buthurt about that, she tought he's a good guy yadeyadeyada. I retort that he's a man of his own destiny and that he's doing what he wants plus he's not hurting anybody, doesn't lye or decieve anyone, girls included.


What I took out of it is that she fears I'll leave her and go spin plates. Which she confirmed and I assured her that it won't happen.


Around one week's time later I met with Michael we had a couple of beers and I explained what I've heard. He wasn't table-flipping mad but he wasn't happy either and wanted to find out who was talking **** about him behind his back.


Next day he checked his fb for that girl but to no vail. He decides to phone my GF to investigate. She doesn't answer because at that time she was writing and exam.


After the exam calls me and asks me what Michael wants to talk about, I
Reply with : " I think you know what about ".


She hangs up. I thought she might have expended all the funds on her phone so I send her a quick text, congratulating her on the exam she passed and that I'll be home earlier this day so she can come over as soon as she can.


She replies with some thing along the lines of : " I don't want to see you .... (cryingface) "


After his phone call Michael found out who it was.


He contacted the gossiper and that was her response : "Hey, I'm very sorry about what has happened, because I never said anything negative about you to anyone, because I want to avoid situations like this."


Basicly she's full of **** and well Michael was unlucky.


Am I single now ? :crackup:


EDIT#1:
I don't have a clue about what made her do that and I believe she should be the one to innitiate contact if there is to be any contact whatsoever.

EDIT#2 Re-wrote the text.

 

[Night-hawk]

What are you talking about, guy.

 

[blind_one]

What are you talking about, guy.

Please clarify as to what seems unclear to you, might have brain lag due to exam-session induced sleep deprivation.

 

[Gman90]

That was really difficult to read. I had go read it three times to figure out what you were trying to say. It sounds like she thinks you blindsided her when you told her that Michael guy wanted to talk. Maybe she though the conversation was suppose to private between you two, and feels like you betrayed her?

 

[blind_one]

@Gman90 Thank you for your effort !

Seems like that. In my book its not ok to talk **** so I had to act plus Michael wasn't angry at her, he just wanted to know who that gossip girl was.

Still, maybe the fact has not caught up to me yet or I'm just deluded but I'd feel like **** If I saw her cry. Good that that didn't happend since she cut the contact and for now I'll just sleep on it a couple of days or maybe move on ?

Should probably get my life going and enjoy everyday again, holidays just started :rockon:


EDIT#1:

There is a birthday party at the beach today, that we we're invited to I don't know I she's gonna be there or not and I don't really care beacause I want to go

 

[Justin Time]

Please re-write the entire thing. You can't give advice on something that doesn't really make sense...

 

[Cremasta]

2. I go grab a couple of beers with my friend and I present the situation ( the aquaitance sh!t talking was a student renting a room in his house ( turns out it was 3 years ago !)

This is where you screwed up. You had second-hand rumours and took it to your friend like it was the truth.
You broke your gf's confidence and put her in a hard place. There was no 'situation' to present, there was no benefit to even raising the issue.

 

[blind_one]

This is where you screwed up. You had second-hand rumours and took it to your friend like it was the truth.
You broke your gf's confidence and put her in a hard place. There was no 'situation' to present, there was no benefit to even raising the issue.

Pretty sure It wasn't second hand since my GF knows her personally. Her confidence was broken most of the time without me doing a thing.

 

[TheCWord]

This is some high school ****, man. You're 22. Steer clear of participating in gossip and the people who absorb themselves in it.

 

[blind_one]

This is some high school ****, man. You're 22. Steer clear of participating in gossip and the people who absorb themselves in it.

Wholeheartedly agree, I was never the gossip type of guy but that was something I though he needed to know. My girlfriend isn't the type to trashtalk people behind their back or trashtalk anyone for that matter. I'm just puzzled why she reacted the way she did.

As If I did a terrible thing to her which I dont realize