GF gives me ultimatum. I give it right back.

[DJDamage]

How so? I should've done this months ago. If anything she's doing me a favor giving me a wake up call.

If you need a wake up call from a woman to get your life in order then you are already lost. She already sees you an as an inept man that "Needs her help" to be a man. She already holds the frame that you need a kick in the ass to make her happy. Wait a few years when you get married and you will be her personal slave because that is the way you conditioned her.

My gf has now chosen to support me and stick with me as I get through this- how is that unhealthy?

well Rollo already said everything that needs to have said. The only thing I am going to add is that she didn't choose to support you!! she is looking after herself!! She can't find a good job and move out of her own to become independed because that is too much hard work!! its easier to find a "SUCKA" and get him addicted to her pvssy thus he will slave away and work hard so he build her a castle while she sits on her pretty ass at home and watch Oprah and eat chocolate. If you move in with her she will just add new lists of demands to cater her ass. You set the precedent to this behaviour by accepting her demands.

No wonder Pook said "women are smart". All she needs to do is make you work your ass off without contributing financially nothing, and the only requirement part from her is to spread her legs 2-3 times a week. If it doesn't work out then she will be entitled to half of you assets!! without bringing any to begin with!!!

 

[penkitten]

i wouldn't do any buying of houses to take up homestead in with a girlfriend/boyfriend.

it's too unstable.

this is something you do for your family, and right now, this isn't a family.
you could do it just for yourself, but when a breakup comes, she is going to want her half, and isn't even your wife yet.

i agree with rollo, this is a trap and i told you that back on page one when i told you that she wants financial and emotional freedom of her parents but yet can not be responsible enough to go it alone.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...i agree with rollo, this is a trap and i told you that back on page one when i told you that she wants financial and emotional freedom of her parents but yet can not be responsible enough to go it alone.

That's it in a nutshell. Another case of a woman giving a guy purpose in life. Scary thing when it's only about her self preservation.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I thought about this on the drive home tonight:

>I can't be bothered with this anymore, i tried and even offered to put that $2000 into this and you're the one telling me i need to compromise, you're so full of ****!
>Like you said you've got more important things to be dealing with well so have i, i'm not wasting any more time and effort on you, you don't deserve it!

My gf has now chosen to support me and stick with me as I get through this- how is that unhealthy?

When a person gives you an ultimatum, always understand that this is a declaration of powerlessness. "I am so out of control here you must do this or else." This is NOT support. Support is positive enouragement and a shared sense of purpose, not nagging, not berating.

 

[Broham]

I thought about this on the drive home tonight


When a person gives you an ultimatum, always understand that this is a declaration of powerlessness. "I am so out of control here you must do this or else." This is NOT support. Support is positive enouragement and a shared sense of purpose, not nagging, not berating.

I agree with you 100% dude. These issues I've been dealing with are deep-rooted and have existed long before I met this chick. I've always had problems finding purpose in my life and I am ashamed to admit that I have looked to women to providing some of that. I have a great life, don't get me wrong- but I'm not even close to where I want to be, personally or professionally.

 

[Frenchconnection]

I agree with you 100% dude. These issues I've been dealing with are deep-rooted and have existed long before I met this chick. I've always had problems finding purpose in my life and I am ashamed to admit that I have looked to women to providing some of that. I have a great life, don't get me wrong- but I'm not even close to where I want to be, personally or professionally.

Well don't be ashamed, I'm guilty of the same thing. And paying for it..:cuss:

 

[Broham]

Well don't be ashamed, I'm guilty of the same thing. And paying for it..:cuss:

That sucks man. What would you have done differently?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I agree with you 100% dude. These issues I've been dealing with are deep-rooted and have existed long before I met this chick. I've always had problems finding purpose in my life and I am ashamed to admit that I have looked to women to providing some of that. I have a great life, don't get me wrong- but I'm not even close to where I want to be, personally or professionally.

Lately I've been saying that women give guys purpose. It starts out with the young bucks who equate their manhood to how many women they bed to the guy who marries a woman in order to take care of her. It's sad but it's the norm.