Gf gives guy flirting with her msn id

[tick37]

The best way to get over AA is to do more approaches until you become desensitized to it.

Also, change the way you perceive the situation. You're attaching feelings and emotions to it that are ONLY in your head.

 

[DonGorgon]

Ok basically like i said. Had some guy flirting with gf on a networking site. He asked for her msn-id and she gave it to him. Id like to think her intentions were innocent but i have a hard time believing it. Whats worse is this was only a few weeks after we started going out, and I was under the impression that she was quite interested in me, in fact I only started chatting to her after finding from some1 she was interested.

It's been a couple of months since then and I have never really brought it up. Should I bring it up if so how? or should let it lie until I get some ass, and then dump her? Wat hurts is I quite liked her as well, and still do. Although thats more to do with possibly desperation not love. I am painfully shy and can't approach/ hold a conversation to save my life.

Opinions, advice, experiences on topic and also the shyness would be appreciated.

Never trust a female... if it acts like a ho then its a ho.

 

[drak_ool]

Ever tried hypnosis btw? Neil Strauss in the game seems to claim it did help, atleast with approach anxiety. Would like to know if any1 has experience with it.

Approach anxiety is what you make it. It s all in your head. As a male human being, you are not pre-programmed to FEAR a female. It s quite the opposite. You think she looks good so you want to approach her. This is dictated by your genes. But then you start thinking about "what if" scenarios. And you imagine the worst outcome. So you take the easy way out and don't follow your genes' calling for the sack of comfort.

breaking out of your comfort zone is what it s all about. If you have such difficulties, at first try to break out of your comfort zone in non-pick up situations. Like go to a department store and start chatting with a clerk (preferably a female). Keep it all business. Or ask women you see on the street matter-of-fact questions, like what time is it or directions to somewhere. Notice, these are not pick-up attempts. You re just learning to get comfortable talking to women.

And then you ll realize it s a lot easier than you thought. A lot of women are bored and they are actually happy to talk to you. From here on you can start macking on them, but that s another story.

remember: rejection is better than regret. I've beat myself over and over in the past when i passed up an occasion to talk to a gorgeous woman, but I don't recall ever looking back on an interaction and thinking "damn, i wish i had never approached that gorgeous blonde, she rejected me so hard"