trv26 said:
Ever tried hypnosis btw? Neil Strauss in the game seems to claim it did help, atleast with approach anxiety. Would like to know if any1 has experience with it.
Approach anxiety is what you make it. It s all in your head. As a male human being, you are not pre-programmed to FEAR a female. It s quite the opposite. You think she looks good so you want to approach her. This is dictated by your genes. But then you start thinking about "what if" scenarios. And you imagine the worst outcome. So you take the easy way out and don't follow your genes' calling for the sack of comfort.
breaking out of your comfort zone is what it s all about. If you have such difficulties, at first try to break out of your comfort zone in non-pick up situations. Like go to a department store and start chatting with a clerk (preferably a female). Keep it all business. Or ask women you see on the street matter-of-fact questions, like what time is it or directions to somewhere. Notice, these are not pick-up attempts. You re just learning to get comfortable talking to women.
And then you ll realize it s a lot easier than you thought. A lot of women are bored and they are actually happy to talk to you. From here on you can start macking on them, but that s another story.
remember: rejection is better than regret. I've beat myself over and over in the past when i passed up an occasion to talk to a gorgeous woman, but I don't recall ever looking back on an interaction and thinking "damn, i wish i had never approached that gorgeous blonde, she rejected me so hard"
