"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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GF for experience?

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Hi,

There's a girl I know that's really into me. I like her too; she's hot, she's a nice person, she's smart, but I'd say that she lacks a lot of the qualities that I would look for in a long term partner. To put it another way, I don't think she's the one I could fall in love with.

The problem is, I have no experience with the ladies, literally none. I think we could have a lot of fun together, and I think she could boost my confidence an awful lot. But I have it in the back of my mind that if I did make an advance on her, I'd feel I was just using her.

I need advice! Thanks for any replies...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mr_knowit_all

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norwood said:
Hi,

There's a girl I know that's really into me. I like her too; she's hot, she's a nice person, she's smart, but I'd say that she lacks a lot of the qualities that I would look for in a long term partner. To put it another way, I don't think she's the one I could fall in love with.

The problem is, I have no experience with the ladies, literally none. I think we could have a lot of fun together, and I think she could boost my confidence an awful lot. But I have it in the back of my mind that if I did make an advance on her, I'd feel I was just using her.

I need advice! Thanks for any replies...
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I don't think it's a good idea.

1) You may think you're going to use this woman to "get experience", but what will probably happen is that you'll develop feelings for her, and she'll dump your ass

2) I really don't think it's cool to use people as human guinea pigs. I know a lot of women do it to guys, but lets try to rise above that nonsense.
 
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Maybe your inexperience is creating psychological barriers so you don't get hurt.

Get with her. If it doesn't work out, move on, you've just got some more practice under your belt. I use everyone around me to become better.
 
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Fang said:
Maybe your inexperience is creating psychological barriers so you don't get hurt.
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Wow, creating psychological barriers so that you dont get hurt. Experience hurts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Luke Skywalker said:
Wow, creating psychological barriers so that you dont get hurt. Experience hurts?
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Let's rephrase his statement:

"Maybe you don't have enough experience and it's creating psychological barriers"
Either that or...
"Maybe you don't have enough experience in creating psychological barriers that prevent you from getting hurt over small things."
Can somebody combine these two threads?
 
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