Gf dropped this on me

[bud_2005]

My gf of 9 weeks informed me that she is saving herself til marriage. She went to a catholic school. At the time I didn't act real pleased and my reaction hurt her feelings. Pretty much this is what she told me: "Before I get too attached to you, I want you to know that I'm saving myself for marriage, and it would break my heart if you left me cuz of that". So it kind of sounds like she wants me for the long term and I do too.

But did anyone else have this told to them, and how did you handle it? Did you leave right then and there, did you go and get sex somewhere else w/o telling her, or did you actually stick around and get married to her?

 

[Morphiex]

man if your even considering going around having sex behind her back , then you shouldnt be with her...
whats the point of having a rlt with a decent girl if you just want to have ***** .... its just hurt you both mostly her...

but if you do like her and **** , then just be with her make her feel sexy , kiss and makeout alot , eventually she will change her mind .... just dont push to hard....

if your in a rlt then you shouldnt cheat , but thats just my oppinnion , if you want multiple girs then tell the girls you arent looking for more then a fun time... misleading em is just cruel imo and havign sex with other girls when your in a rtl with a girl thats saving herself is reaaally cruel .....

 

[GHardy]

If you like her and you think you want to pursue a long term relationship with her, then give it a shot, if you think you can handle a non-sexual relationship. You can still do other things, and often some girls who won't have sex before marriage will do pretty much everything else.

If you don't think you can have a long term relationship without sex, then you have to talk to her about that now. Not in a pressuring way, just in an honest way. She's being honest with you before you get too involved. The least you could do is be honest with her too.

I don't know how old you are, but if she is young, she may eventually change her mind about this. Especially if you get into a long term relationship.

If you think it is worth it to you, you could at least try and then if you think you aren't ready to be in a long term relationship where you have to wait for sex until marriage then you can talk to her about it when you have made that decision.

Don't cheat on her. It's not cool. And if you end up really liking her, it could mess everything up for you. Make your decision one way or the other, talk to her about it honestly and kindly and go from there. She says it would break her heart if you left her because of that, but it's your choice whether you can handle that sort of relationship, not hers. I guarantee you it would break her heart more if you end up cheating on her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Whoa, nine weeks and she still wasn't that attached to you? Weren't there any other clues that she wasn't that into you?

 

[\O/]

Just tell her that you two should play "Just the tip"...

No woman has ever managed to escape unpenetrated from "just the tip.. " they all give in!

 

[bud_2005]

I'm 20 she's 18 btw.

 

[Bussey]

Lol, this isn't a seduction/pickup thing... again a reason why I left... people asking marraige and relationship advice... psshhhh.

Anyway, if you want to stick with her and she's serious about the marraige thing... good luck lol.

If you want to stick with her and corrupt her... there are ways. I don't suggest them because it could be 'morally' wrong... but then again this is a bunch of guys telling each other how to get laid haha... so who the **** cares about morals? (If she's a mormon... as I dated once ouch that sucked.... and can't touch you and vice versa... lol then you're toast, but catholic girls get freaky )

Sleaziest way? Alcohol lol.

Possible way? You can pull a Mystery, if you're getting into it, making out.. whatever and she says 'We have to stop', look at her and say 'I understand.' wait 5-15 mins... then start up again... this time chances are she'll into going further... if it happens again... stop... I understand.... go do something different like check your email. Then go back to her and start up again.

Ideal way? Turn her on so much she says '**** it, I renounce my faith.' Read up on massage, and pressure points, hair grabs, bites... etc... things to turn her on like no tomorrow, and keep moving 2 forward... 1 back... 2 forward. Tease. Get her so hot, she can't help herself... "One thing led to another".