GF dropped a bomb on me

[zinc4]

Said she doesn't like fat people. Said she will act cordial toward them but secretly can never like them and could never be friends with one...why is this a big deal to me......because after a few years of knowing her i have seen her as one of the most kindest people i have ever known...however, this is a major contrast to her what i have known about her up to this point...and it's very shallow...she also told me all of her firends are only good looking people...she said she only really likes good looking people... i got upset and scolded her...some of my good friends are overweight as well as one of my closest cousins...

We have been off and on a few years now and lately she is showing chinks in the armor...crying all the time....this....i am debating about ending it for good over this...it is a huge deal for me how a girl is to other people when judging for a LTR....anyone else feel the same way or am i just crazy and looking for excuses to ***** around...

 

[Maximummax]

your girl is immature
Turn around that question and ask her whether her family has any fat people and what she will do when she see's/meets that person.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She's projecting her low self-image at others. When she says, "I hate fat people," she means 'I hate myself because I feel fat.'

 

[backbreaker]

sans the "I only like good looking people" I agree with her. I don't like fat people either. And I've been fat.

If you cut teh political correctness aside and asked mot people to a man they would probably tell you that they feel some type of spite or hatred or something for obese people and that obese people would tell you themselves they aren't very happy with themselves.

I don't really see why you are giving your GF any slack over this with all the posts on this forum about women "MAKING US TAKE FAT WOMEN AS THE NEW SKINNY" **** i see everyday and here is a woman who is saying no, if you are fat you suck at life, and you are saying you have a problem with that too you can't have your cake and eat it too.

guess what, WE ARE SHALLOW. the quicker you can accecpt that we live in a shallow society and that you are just as shallow as everyone else, the happier and more peaceful your life would be. You wouldn't be talking to your GF now if you didn't think she was hot i don't are how "great of a girl" you think she is and she woudlnt' be talking to you if she didn't find you attractive

you can either create this virtual non existent world where the state is predisposed by toughly feely hall mark cards and where the only thing that counts is the inside or you can embrace reality and accecpt that your Gf is just being dead honest and i applaud her for that.

I don't so much HATE fat people hate is a very strong word I don't even hate white supremacists, and I don't think she HATES fat people either i thin it's a bad choice of word, i think discontent is a better word. I don't accecpt fat people for just "being who they are" i was fat and i know that it took like 2 years to get up to 235 pounds and that's 2 years of looking in the mirror and not doing **** about my appearance while stuffing my face with all types of food in the meantime

I don't care for fat people, I have a very active lifestyle, fat people are lazy. fat people are generally big on talk and small on work. they would rather tell you about how they are going to lose weight while stealing snickers out of the grocery store.

I don't like fat people beucase fat people are the worst pull you back in the crab bucket types on earth. espeically when it comes to women. fat guys will white knight, **** block, do whatever it takes to keep you from
eing happy beucase they aren't happy and they want company. they need someone else to cosign their miserable nature.

I can't stand fat people because I hate people who refuse to fix problems. That and I've never met a "clean" fat person in my life. Being fat is a tale tell sign of being flat out lazy. family member or not and i've got some.

I don't like fat people because fat people don't even care enough about themselves to take er of their own body. I admit to being quite shallow but i'm honest about it. and i'm at peace with my "shallowness"

I mean, with all that said I don't go trollin the streets of southern California looking for fat people to spit on or anything. i've said it before my wife, who isn't quite as shallow as I am, has 2 overweight friends and htey are over here alot (more than i would like honestly) and honestly i don't see what she sees in them. they pretty much fit the fat woman stereotype to a T but she loves them and even though they don't add anything tanigable to her life she keeps them coming over, but they are more than welcome to come over whenever they want. I'm not mean, but I don't have to like them either.

and even with my wife, her 2 "fat friends" aren't even real friends. they are her gossip buddies but when it's time to go on a vacation or have a girls night out, or go on a double date with one of her friends with me and her she doesn't want anything to do with them they are a drag on her and their *****ing and jealouness nature

 

[visions]

she also told me all of her firends are only good looking people...she said she only really likes good looking people....

LTRs lead to marriage, so you have some serious thinking to do.
Disliking someone because he/she isn't "good-looking" is retarded. everyone has their imperfections, but such a statement is a deal-breaker for me and i spot a slippery-slope.
i wouldn't want to procreate with someone like that.

 

[bluenorther]

Aliens rule our society and they plan to use fat people for food.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Aliens rule our society and they plan to use fat people for food.

And they're doing a damn fine job preparing. The reason why I think it's wrong to disapprove of fat people is that there are just too damn many of them. The cause is hopeless. Go to any midwestern Wal-Mart and you'll be outnumbered 100 to 1. I wouldn't be able to think if I had to spend so much time disapproving. I give up. The fat people win. Hopefully the aliens will eat them first.

 

[Velor]

Well.. I agree with your girlfriend. If she doesnt like fat people there's nothin strange about it, I dont like fat people too. Not that I dont respect them. But I dont like them, im in the same boat as backbreaker.

Damn arent we allowed to like or dislike whatever we want? If you chose to be fat(most of the time it's a choice, when diseases are not present) then I chose to not like you-

And saying that "she's projecting her low self-image at others because she hate herself" is just overthinkin it

The U.S.A. have a real problem concerning obesity. And if people would stop being "politically correct" in a silly way, well then maybe the problem could be re-sized..

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I did not say that

 

[Big Nuts]

Fat people should be ridiculed into thinner people.

 

[Big Nuts]

As an aside....chicks hate, hate, hate fat guys...learn it, live it, love it.....hit the gym, eat well, have a basic V shape and the p00n will follow.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

As an aside....chicks hate, hate, hate fat guys...learn it, live it, love it.....hit the gym, eat well, have a basic V shape and the p00n will follow.

Maybe the teenage blonde barbie valley girls. But not every girl. I know lots of girls who like guys chubby-fat. In fact, they prefer it over an "average" body (not skinny, but not built either).

 

[EastWind]

... so?

Most fat people are fat because they are stupid (notice I said most, I know a bunch of very smart people who just happen to like good food). And I don't like stupid people.

Now, I'd start getting worried if she said she doesn't like men.

Bigger red flag is the fact that you've been "on and off" for a few years.

 

[Atom Smasher]

"She also told me all of her friends are only good looking people...she said she only really likes good looking people..."

This is the real worrisome statement, not the fat people thing. Most people regard fat people with some disdain. It is a fact of humanity.

However, the fact that she extrapolates into the quote above shows her to be exceptionally shallow. It tells you all you need to know about her.

 

[Zarky]

Gotta say, I'm not a big fan of fat people either. Any time I start to gain a couple pounds more than I'd like I nip that sh*t in the bud.. eat less exercise more.

 

[backbreaker]

"She also told me all of her friends are only good looking people...she said she only really likes good looking people..."

This is the real worrisome statement, not the fat people thing. Most people regard fat people with some disdain. It is a fact of humanity.

However, the fact that she extrapolates into the quote above shows her to be exceptionally shallow. It tells you all you need to know about her.

that's what I mean. Because if you think about it, hating fat people and only hanging around good looking people, really don't have anything to do with each other. that's 2 totally different things that aren't mutually exclusive.

not liking fat people is one thing. only hanging around good looking people is pretty shallow

 

[zinc4]

she told me she chooses her friends by looks because of art.....she loves beautiful stuff..................wow.......but she contradicts herself.....she doesn't kill anything because of her religion...even a flie....and has such an open m,ind on everything besides this.......i used to look at her like this angel or saint.....................i have cheated on her many times and hated myslef for it....but this makes it seem better in a morbid way....

 

[VladPatton]

Hate is a strong word, but pound for pound, overweight people are useless to a society. Yeah I know there are a lot of smart ones, and they can do their sit-down jobs well, but for anything physical, forget it. It's just how it is.

We live in the fattest nation in the world, and to keep accepting an overweight lifestyle is not a road to progress. They costs this country (our tax dollars) billions when they need constant medical attention as diseases attack their unhealthy bodies.

The U.S. needs to stop this politically correct büllṣhit that 'everyone's a winner' and 'it's what's inside that counts'.

 

[Down Low]

She's pregnant ("fat people"), all of her friends use contraception and have abortions ("good-looking people"), you cheat on her, and now that she has committed to you, you're angry and withdrawn as if you're getting ready to leave.

Congratulations.

 

[backbreaker]

Hate is a strong word, but pound for pound, overweight people are useless to a society. Yeah I know there are a lot of smart ones, and they can do their sit-down jobs well, but for anything physical, forget it. It's just how it is.

We live in the fattest nation in the world, and to keep accepting an overweight lifestyle is not a road to progress. They costs this country (our tax dollars) billions when they need constant medical attention as diseases attack their unhealthy bodies.

The U.S. needs to stop this politically correct büllṣhit that 'everyone's a winner' and 'it's what's inside that counts'.

while we are a fat ass nation, we aren't the fastest nation on earth.

just about all of the Java island nations are fatter than we are, where the samoilians are from


http://www.infoplease.com/world/statistics/obesity.html

 

[zinc4]

i am always taking breaks with her for various reasons..never her decision....she has been good to me, but stuff like this bothers me...