"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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GF disrespecting me. Handling it right?

The North Dragon

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Recently my gf of 1 year has been disrespecting me. She's been picking more arguements, petty ones at that, stuff that never happened in the beginning. Would always put me first for example she never had a car so I had to do all the driving. She just recently got a car and already getting excuses that she has ' this' and ' that ' to do and doesn't have time . Having out a lot more with friends and friends tagging along when doing things.

Today we fell out and I have just had enough, after she dropped me off at home I haven't spoken to her except ask what she was doing and she wasn't going out drinking. I confronted her ' so we fell out and haven't made up and you would rather go out drinking?' .

So after that discussion I haven't spoke or text her....she text me twice and phoned me twice.... I haven't responded. Wouldn't know what to say anyway. Told me she was going to another town for a drink and won't have signal to text however I logged onto Facebook and seen she was online on her mobile?

What do, just keep the distance for time being?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheMonkeyKing

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=Next. This girl isn't your life. Live your life. When she sees you having more fun than her, she'll come running back, they always do. And if she don't, you'll be out meeting the next one anyway. Win win.
 

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The North Dragon said:
Told me she was going to another town for a drink and won't have signal to text however I logged onto Facebook and seen she was online on her mobile?
RED FLAG IMO but for me, this is the type of situation where youve got to start acting like a "D!ck" because clearly she's starting to sh!t on you when she disrespects you. This seems like its beginning to slide south unless you put her in her place and on the spot. If she calls you and begins giving you an attitude, you have to respond with "Listen, Until you start fvcking acting right with me, dont bother calling. That attitude you been giving me and showing no respect, take that bullsh!t somewhere else".
 

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Although technically like the other guys above posted, saying Next, is right... You have to adjust YOUR attitude to not let these women disrespect you in the first place and put them in fvcking line because you can Next girls over and over again but with no backbone... Your going to run into the same problem with the majority of girls.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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El Payaso

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She's getting bored of you. I'm not even trying to slight you in anyway. They are never satisfied and are constantly seeking a new c0ck when they know they have you on their finger. You have to go live your own life. Right now, you're making her the center of your life which is where the disrespect stems from.
 

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Great feedback guys.

I don't usually make her the centre of my life, I go out and always do my own thing and do things on my terms. Always put myself first before her and she's constantly moaning about that to but I guess lately its got out of hand and I've put up with it.
 

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GotED? said:
When a woman starts to argue and fight in a LTR = GAME OVER.

You are losing the frame, look for greener pastures.

Exodus
I did this recently. Formally ended our relationship when I knew frame was lost and I was just being the one forward enough to address it.

My question: what the hell do you do when she contacts you? I've been contacted and have handled it well since I cut emotional ties (been short, aloof, yet courteous). Won't even lie, I do still like her a bit, but not enough to let myself be disrespected and weak. I feel like it's gotta be just not initiating, but at least responding.
 

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EbbsAndFlows said:
I did this recently. Formally ended our relationship when I knew frame was lost and I was just being the one forward enough to address it.

My question: what the hell do you do when she contacts you? I've been contacted and have handled it well since I cut emotional ties (been short, aloof, yet courteous). Won't even lie, I do still like her a bit, but not enough to let myself be disrespected and weak. I feel like it's gotta be just not initiating, but at least responding.
Women love validation after break up, unsure if she made the right decision, attention whorring, or worst case: she wants to see how much you are suffering from being dumped.

For a DJ, it doesn't matter which one it is - because you should be holding a clear and strong NC - even if you need to change your phone number to free yourself of the lesser evils in life.

I have learned life is bitter sweet with relationships, with a beautiful beginning is a guaranteed painful ending. But I am willing to do it again and again each time, because as long as I am improving myself with age - the next woman which comes into my life just gets better and more right for me because I am one step closet in knowing what I DON'T want in a woman after each NEXTing.

As a man we must look at the world as your divine playground, and women being an intricate part of that equation in finding your manhood and place in life. The ultimate purpose is to fill the depth of your soul with pure happiness. That is difficult to achieve if we do not learn to be with the right woman and stop wasting time with all others.


Be well

Exodus
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she is done with you and giving you typical hints... just ignore her for 2 weeks then text her elite nothing happened and try to F.. make is all about sex if she refuses then put her on permeant ignore
 

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Ignored her all last night. Phones again this morning and text saying ' tired to phone you'. I replied ' why' and she said ' coz I haven't heard from you'. I went back on the ignore and haven't heard again. ?
 

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The North Dragon said:
Ignored her all last night. Phones again this morning and text saying ' tired to phone you'. I replied ' why' and she said ' coz I haven't heard from you'. I went back on the ignore and haven't heard again. ?
Dude keep it up, better you end it being a d1ck than her end it chumping you out like she is.
 

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She thinks she's hot sh!t just cuz she got a new car. Ignore her completely until she shows up to your house unannounced. Stop replying to texts and answering calls.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You both need to move on.
She's lost interest (and doesn't fear losing you). And the thing is - the longer you stick it out with a girl who's losing interest - the more she will lack respect and attraction for you. The more she will resent you for not being a man and leaving her.

You're not ok with the direction of the relationship and it sounds like you are starting to complain openly to her about her actions and lack of desire to be by your side (probably something like "why are you going out with your friends instead of coming to see me?").

Result = Relationship dying a death of a billion others.

Move on. Fvck new girls. Fvck her friends. Win.

Apology or no.

PS: If I have anything wrong, it's simply a translation issue. I did the best with what I could understand.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
You both need to move on.
She's lost interest (and doesn't fear losing you). And the thing is - the longer you stick it out with a girl who's losing interest - the more she will lack respect and attraction for you. The more she will resent you for not being a man and leaving her.

You're not ok with the direction of the relationship and it sounds like you are starting to complain openly to her about her actions and lack of desire to be by your side (probably something like "why are you going out with your friends instead of coming to see me?").

Result = Relationship dying a death of a billion others.

Move on. Fvck new girls. Fvck her friends. Win.

Apology or no.

PS: If I have anything wrong, it's simply a translation issue. I did the best with what I could understand.

^^^10000% real...
 
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