GF depressed by hormone levels

[Oisdog]

I have been going with my girlfriend for 8 months now and everything has been great!

However...recently she has been geeting pelvic pains and she thinks something is up, whether it is PID or something i don't know! But whatever it is it is effecting her hormones dramatically...she says she is always depressed for no reason at all and she is constatnly in a bad mood. I am the only person who can lift her spirits! (BTW this is not usually like her as she is renowned as being one of the bubbliest people around)

Sometimes however she even gives me attitude and is being snappy with me! I immediately told her that I would be there for her as long as she appreciated it and didn't be cheecky to me...her response was that she did appreciate it but couldnt help but be a ***** as her hormomnes were influeneing her too much and she sometimes can't control what she says! I can't understand this, being male, as I don't comprehand how hormones can have such control over how you behave! It almost seems like she has no self contol and can't control her bad moods lately!

Any thoughts?

 

[Slick101]

How old is she?

 

[Oisdog]

shes 22

 

[Slick101]

How long ago did this happen... And for how long?

 

[Oisdog]

just recently..has had pain for a while but only getting depressed the last few weeks

 

[Slick101]

I think there is something she's not telling you...

My advice is stop talking to her, give her some space... She will either change or ask you why you doing this..

Tell her you dont want to be a part of someones depressing life... especially when your still young.... Tell her you understand about what shes going through... but talking to you doesnt help... and we need to find another way...

Something in those words...

 

[KontrollerX]

Sounds like she needs a checkup at the doctor's office.

Maybe its something normal that will pass in time and maybe it isn't.

Only the doc will know for sure.

 

[Stuntmann]

Question is do you care?

If no, move on, to hell with her.


If yes find out what's going on. For that you need to observe her without your presence. Think of something or someone that can help. If she's like that with everybody else then she has a problem. Don't just take her word for it, test her out.

Hormonal problem at that young age is very suspecious. More like a mechanism to keep you or drive you away or test you. Who knows. That's why you test.

Should she turn out to be telling truth, decide if you want to stick with that? (obvious answer is no, but who knows, it's up to you)

 

[LovelyLady]

She needs to go to the Dr and INSIST they ultrasound her ovaries for cysts and/or tumors/growths. A pelvic will not be good enough.

 

[Oisdog]

She needs to go to the Dr and INSIST they ultrasound her ovaries for cysts and/or tumors/growths. A pelvic will not be good enough.

yeah shes going to the doctor soon enough! She says the pain is pretty bad! As a woman, can u offer any info on how hormones effect your mood?

 

[LovelyLady]

Me???- Moody???? NEVER! Ha Ha Ha... AND you MUST know that SHE is NEVER moody either... right??? Ha Ha Ha

 

[Oisdog]

all women are the same! lol

 

[LovelyLady]

Seriously, unless you have turrets, you can control your own mouth, regardless of your gender. Now regretting what you say - we all have those moments, you know?

Perhaps she needs to learn the standard "When you _____ I feel _____" to communicate that she is getting "set -off " by something, so you guys can develop an understanding of where eachother is at, until it is resolved.

But yes, hormones can wack out some women pretty badly. Responsible women learn coping mechanisms, self-care (including medical) solutions so thier lives aren't ruined by it. Because of the pain, and the late onset of it (if it were her early teens that would be different, but at 22 she is grown) this is something real.

Generally women who want to be a jerk to man just WILL be and and the LAST thing they will EVER admit to/offer up is it being a bioligical weakness... we have to protect the superiority of our gender LOL...

 

[LovelyLady]

ummm illusion of superiority maybe ROFL as My Guy would say... ha ha ha

 

[Randallpink83]

I would say taker 8yrs of med school and then see if you can help her or send her to another man that already has had 8yrs of med school...... girls need doctors for all their complicated female problems.