should i be worried ... the other half of me is thinkin "hey its normal for a girl to be with so many guys." shes obviously had more fuks than me. she also told me she kind of got forced into sex when she was 14. what do i think of this? i told her not to worry about it and that it's all in the past.
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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Maxtro
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Started sex at 14 and now she's 20. So that's 6 years of being sexually active. 20 guys divided by 6 years is about 3.3 guys.
In other words she could have had 3 boyfriends a year. That's the best case scenario.
She's a girl who does what guys wish they could do.
In other words she could have had 3 boyfriends a year. That's the best case scenario.
She's a girl who does what guys wish they could do.
Rata Blanca
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Hey, at least she is honest!
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The only thing you should be concerned with is that you are the only c0ck she has had since getting together with you.
Well thats my opinion of how guy's should look at it.
I know some posters like that RudyTubesteak guy just had to ask his girlfriend about her prior sexual history and when she told him about all the guys she had and her threesomes it pretty much destroyed his peace of mind and he couldn't deal with it. He broke up with her and she got him back with her somehow and I don't think he's updated us in a while but in anycase what he told us was he had a perfect relationship with her before he asked her all that she'd done in the past or she just came out and told him about it (I'm not sure which) and from the moment of the telling the relationship had gone through periods of chaos and breakdown when previously it'd been contented.
So yeah guys if its going to bother the sh!t out of you don't ask and maybe even suggest as politely as you can to a chick when you first get involved with her that you don't want to hear about any of her past experiences and you won't tell her yours either and it will be a relationship based on how you both interact with eachother because the revelations of past encounters to either the male or female can be disasterous.
I personally could care less if a chick had a truckload of c0cks before me as long as they were largely had in committed relationships (indicating the chick was not a total slvt about it) and I would be the only c0ck she would be taking in at present.
See what gets to me is the cheating.
I really and truly am not bothered about who a chick gets with before me and I think most guys should take the same attitude but I understand sometimes our minds make us care when we logically know we shouldn't about certain things.
Rudy even told me he wishes he could make his mind think like mine is this way so there you go.
Some things may just be out of our control or we all just need to find an individual way to defeat certain negative aspects of our minds making us feel ways that are not beneficial to us.
Well thats my opinion of how guy's should look at it.
I know some posters like that RudyTubesteak guy just had to ask his girlfriend about her prior sexual history and when she told him about all the guys she had and her threesomes it pretty much destroyed his peace of mind and he couldn't deal with it. He broke up with her and she got him back with her somehow and I don't think he's updated us in a while but in anycase what he told us was he had a perfect relationship with her before he asked her all that she'd done in the past or she just came out and told him about it (I'm not sure which) and from the moment of the telling the relationship had gone through periods of chaos and breakdown when previously it'd been contented.
So yeah guys if its going to bother the sh!t out of you don't ask and maybe even suggest as politely as you can to a chick when you first get involved with her that you don't want to hear about any of her past experiences and you won't tell her yours either and it will be a relationship based on how you both interact with eachother because the revelations of past encounters to either the male or female can be disasterous.
I personally could care less if a chick had a truckload of c0cks before me as long as they were largely had in committed relationships (indicating the chick was not a total slvt about it) and I would be the only c0ck she would be taking in at present.
See what gets to me is the cheating.
I really and truly am not bothered about who a chick gets with before me and I think most guys should take the same attitude but I understand sometimes our minds make us care when we logically know we shouldn't about certain things.
Rudy even told me he wishes he could make his mind think like mine is this way so there you go.
Some things may just be out of our control or we all just need to find an individual way to defeat certain negative aspects of our minds making us feel ways that are not beneficial to us.
The past is the past; but you can't turn a hoe into a housewife. Two conflicting ideas. I think what matters about previous numbers is how they happened. If she was slut about it, for example none of her previous' were an actual relationship, or she had one or two relationships but cheating in them all many times, then this is a clear red flag. But, she might just be a very affectionate girl who likes sex with a stable and monogamous partner. She probably has a lot of sexual energy which can be put to good use.
KontrollerX, you're right on that post. that is what i wanted to hear. the past shouldn't bother us. she was saying i don't deserve her after she told me that and that she feels bad for telling me that it took alot of courage. i told her it doesn't mean anything to us because we look toward the future not the past. leave the past in the past where it belongs 
It used to really bother me to think about what my past gf's had done. I even hated the thought that they had kissed other guys. Then I realized how crazy I was being.
As long as she has been tested and none of those guys have been during the time you have been dating her then it doesn't matter.
It is only natural that you feel like that about someone you care about. There is however a point when it crosses the line from being a normal feeling to being a huge insecurity.
This is why I have a don't ask don't tell policy. She gets tested and I show her I have been tested and thats it no questions asked. No matter what the answer is i'm not gonna like it. If she has been with any guys then that will bother me and if she's a virgin i'm not gonna like it because virgins are way more trouble than they're worth.
As long as she has been tested and none of those guys have been during the time you have been dating her then it doesn't matter.
It is only natural that you feel like that about someone you care about. There is however a point when it crosses the line from being a normal feeling to being a huge insecurity.
This is why I have a don't ask don't tell policy. She gets tested and I show her I have been tested and thats it no questions asked. No matter what the answer is i'm not gonna like it. If she has been with any guys then that will bother me and if she's a virgin i'm not gonna like it because virgins are way more trouble than they're worth.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Like Andrew Dice Clay says, "the first time you two did it, was she good? Well, how do you think she got to be that way?"
I talked to an ex of mine last night who mentioned she had been with well over 100 guys. She says a friend of hers is the same. My last gf had probably been with forty or fifty guys. Attractive women get around for the same reason dogs licks their own balls - because they can.
I talked to an ex of mine last night who mentioned she had been with well over 100 guys. She says a friend of hers is the same. My last gf had probably been with forty or fifty guys. Attractive women get around for the same reason dogs licks their own balls - because they can.
Schadenfreudianslip
Don Juan
I think that watching the Kevin Smith movie Chasing Amy ould do you some good right now.
He shouldn't be looking for a housewife at this age anyway.Lincoln said:
At least she's honest, how is she going to find a great guy if she only tries out a few?
If you had girls asking you out and offering sex all the time, you would have a similar number, probably higher.
Experience is great in the bedroom anyway.
If you want to be with the hot girls, this is something you are going to have to get used to.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
I can only hope you are using good quality condoms, i personally wouldn't go down on her.
That's right.Rata Blanca said:
She choose to be honest with you, she could have easily lied and said 2. Knowing this new information does not change who she is and what attracted you to her in the first place.
The fact is by the time most hot chicks reach the age of 18 they probably already had sex. Why you ask? because hot chicks bring out the guys with natural game and they fvck em by picking the best from the litter. Also a chick could get STD from the first guy she ever been with or not get one after fvcking 50. There is no real mathmatics here, just like you can drive 2 mins 1km to your grocery store and get in a car accident or take a 3 day road trip and be just fine, even though statistically you'r chances of an accident increase the longer you drive.
Why does it matter....really?
This thread is split, half agreeing that its should only matter in context and the other half saying its everything.
I think the people who care about the number are just worried about there egos. They want to be the first guy or at least the second,third, or fourth guy. They don't like women who have been with a lot of guys, because they want to think they are special and that this women has and only ever will let them **** them.
To the people who say they wouldn't go down on her are stupid. I mean sure if she was having sex with homeless guys it may be different, but if she doesn't have an STD, then what are you afraid of. I think its just that these guys are scared to have to live up the expectations this girl might have after having been with 20 guys.
If girls were like guys when picking a mating partner, than I would say the vast majority of us on this board, would be well, and I mean well over 100 girls by now. So the fact that girls could be well over a 100, and some are only at 20, actually shows they are not that bad. Whats funny is some of the same guys who complain that they would never be with a women who is been with 20+ guys at that age are some of the same ones who go looking looking for One-night-stands at bars. They must not realize that if you have a one-night-stand with a girl from a bar, there is extremely overwhelming chance she has been with 20+ guys if she is over age 21. Yet there ego makes them think they are the only ones attractive and suave enough to pull it off.
As long as a girl has no STD's, is faithful when in a relationship, and has sex for the enjoyment of it, and not just to get a rich guy to buy her things or something, then I could care less how many guys she has been with.
This thread is split, half agreeing that its should only matter in context and the other half saying its everything.
I think the people who care about the number are just worried about there egos. They want to be the first guy or at least the second,third, or fourth guy. They don't like women who have been with a lot of guys, because they want to think they are special and that this women has and only ever will let them **** them.
To the people who say they wouldn't go down on her are stupid. I mean sure if she was having sex with homeless guys it may be different, but if she doesn't have an STD, then what are you afraid of. I think its just that these guys are scared to have to live up the expectations this girl might have after having been with 20 guys.
If girls were like guys when picking a mating partner, than I would say the vast majority of us on this board, would be well, and I mean well over 100 girls by now. So the fact that girls could be well over a 100, and some are only at 20, actually shows they are not that bad. Whats funny is some of the same guys who complain that they would never be with a women who is been with 20+ guys at that age are some of the same ones who go looking looking for One-night-stands at bars. They must not realize that if you have a one-night-stand with a girl from a bar, there is extremely overwhelming chance she has been with 20+ guys if she is over age 21. Yet there ego makes them think they are the only ones attractive and suave enough to pull it off.
As long as a girl has no STD's, is faithful when in a relationship, and has sex for the enjoyment of it, and not just to get a rich guy to buy her things or something, then I could care less how many guys she has been with.
bbestar
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Wake up, you're living in a fantasy world! He would have to LOWER his standards to find a chick who didn't get as many chances because she was less attractive.Lincoln said:
Hot women sleep with lots of guys! why wouldn't they? How is it a bad thing? I can only see positives to an experienced partner.
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