"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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gf cheating on u . how can u tell

joe45

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any guys here got their gf cheated on them. or the girlt hey are dating is seeing other guys too. how did you find out and the story.

you find once u get a gf and spend money, effort, time on the girl and if some other guy gets her all ur effort and time and moneyi s gone. --what do u do

how do u know teh girl ur datign is also seeing other guys and not just hanging out with guy friends or even ur gf???? do u ask them or how-dont want to be too insecure
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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joe45 said:
any guys here got their gf cheated on them. or the girlt hey are dating is seeing other guys too. how did you find out and the story.

you find once u get a gf and spend money, effort, time on the girl and if some other guy gets her all ur effort and time and moneyi s gone. --what do u do

how do u know teh girl ur datign is also seeing other guys and not just hanging out with guy friends or even ur gf???? do u ask them or how-dont want to be too insecure
How can you tell if your Girlfriend is cheating? You usually dont know it until its too late and shes just about to push the eject button on you but it depends what her motives are. For example if the girl your with loves being with you but just wants her cake and eat it too, she wont let you know about it in any way and will cover her tracks or keep her lies in tact making sure you dont find out and end up losing you. If shes looking to branch swing, you wont know at first but then the signs start to show,.. No interest in sex as much with you, Doesnt feel so touchy, gets irritated with you easily, etc. This is not always the case but just some examples depending on the girl. One of the manipulative moves of the female is to break you down in terms of switching situations on your shoulders, for example if you get that gut feeling telling you shes doing some foul play and you start to question certain things, she will immediately turn the tables to avoid her getting caught. Saying things like "OMG you dont trust me!??" or they may even start full blown argument to make you feel like a jerk for even bringing up such a thing. Its never her fault AND if she does get caught? Guess what its still your fault according to her, How? Well you didnt do this and you didnt do that... and you werent this enough or wasnt that enough. ANYTHING to move the blame towards you.

Thats why a man needs to be iron strong at all times because once you go soft, Women like an evil spirit will prowl on the weak and devour your azz. Im telling you, Women can turn on you so badly, you will feel like taking a baseball bat to her chin. If your girl crosses a line, Put her in her place and make her show you some respect.
 

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I think there are a few 'tells' from my experience:

- Less eye contact engagement from her POV; this is due to her feeling guilty about having an affair / cheating.
- Doesn't listen to you on the same level as before i.e. you're talking to her but she continues to do other stuff and not really pay attention.
- She starts disrespecting you or at least challenging you on a regular basis.
- If and when you have a gut feeling that she's cheating on you, you're usually right.. Exceptions occur when you're overly jealous / suspicious.
 

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When she starts getting new interests, hobbies, and her behavior starts to change, those are good signs that there's another dude in the picture. But that's for LTRs only. If you've only known her a couple of months, it will be more difficult to tell.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You can drive yourself crazy thinking about this stuff and never come to a useful conclusion. Bottom line, the only thing you can concern yourself with is knowing it's happening so you can govern yourself accordingly.

When you meet a girl pay attention to who she hangs out with, and how she spends her time.

Know her schedule, likes, and dislikes.

Pay attention to how much she likes you, and the sacrifices she makes to be with you.

Pay attention to her cellular usage.

Pay attention to her fbook.

You need to build up a baseline model of her normal behavior, then keep an eye open for any changes and gently investigate.
 

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"How can you tell if your Girlfriend is cheating? You usually dont know it until its too late and shes just about to push the eject button on you but it depends what her motives are. For example if the girl your with loves being with you but just wants her cake and eat it too, she wont let you know about it in any way and will cover her tracks or keep her lies in tact making sure you dont find out and end up losing you. If shes looking to branch swing, you wont know at first but then the signs start to show,.. No interest in sex as much with you, Doesnt feel so touchy, gets irritated with you easily, etc. This is not always the case but just some examples depending on the girl. One of the manipulative moves of the female is to break you down in terms of switching situations on your shoulders, for example if you get that gut feeling telling you shes doing some foul play and you start to question certain things, she will immediately turn the tables to avoid her getting caught. Saying things like "OMG you dont trust me!??" or they may even start full blown argument to make you feel like a jerk for even bringing up such a thing. Its never her fault AND if she does get caught? Guess what its still your fault according to her, How? Well you didnt do this and you didnt do that... and you werent this enough or wasnt that enough. ANYTHING to move the blame towards you.

Thats why a man needs to be iron strong at all times because once you go soft, Women like an evil spirit will prowl on the weak and devour your azz. Im telling you, Women can turn on you so badly, you will feel like taking a baseball bat to her chin. If your girl crosses a line, Put her in her place and make her show you some respect."


this is a very good post, i hope i saw this earlier before i got dumped few months back, i would like to hear more posts about when to know about disinterest, or cheating, just so i can recognise the signs, ive learnt alot from this site, thank god i found it.
 

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In addition to the other posts,

- change in hair cut/style and or color

- change in clothing, may seem to be trying a different 'style'

- different makeup (seriously women think about this stuff)

- going out on their own more to 'see friends' This is easy to cross check of course

- she shud away from what would have been 'usual' close contact eg kissing, cuddling, bed sessions

- is 'too busy' to do specific things with you, seems to have a full diary so to speak

You need to know a woman's baselines so you can identify change. Then find out if that change signals cheating. In my experience, men are slack at picking up on subtle signals, and women are very good at this.

Open your eyes and ears, pay attention without being paranoid, and take control of the situation.
 

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^ THose are good indicators..also:

- Starting to work out more, try to get skinnier
- VERY secretive about her phone (KEY)
- Picks fights over stupid sh*t, so she can have a reason to pretend she's pissed to ride her other guys C@CK
- Secretive in general

If your seeing this kind of stuff, instead of just jumping ship I think you should just cheat on her, then dump her ass. Girls like that deserve what they get. If she comes pretending to crawl back, then f*ck her in the ass, jiz on her face and boot her again. Use her like the jiz bucket she is.
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yuppaz said:
^ THose are good indicators..also:

- Starting to work out more, try to get skinnier
- VERY secretive about her phone (KEY)
- Picks fights over stupid sh*t, so she can have a reason to pretend she's pissed to ride her other guys C@CK
- Secretive in general

If your seeing this kind of stuff, instead of just jumping ship I think you should just cheat on her, then dump her ass. Girls like that deserve what they get. If she comes pretending to crawl back, then f*ck her in the ass, jiz on her face and boot her again. Use her like the jiz bucket she is.
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i laughed at the last two lines :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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