"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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gf broe up with me how well did i handle it

dj ben2

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k we've been going out 3 months and one night i rang her up to see if she wanted to go see bruno this sat cos i really wanna see it anyway she didnt take my call and 5 min later sent me theis msg

"djben2, im really sorry but i think we should break up. i just dont feel the same anymore. im so sorry this is over msn but i cant mange hearing your voice. im so sorry."

now this did come as a shock to me but im not in denial i saw it coming a while now and i did like her but its not the end of the world. anyway this is what i sent back.

" yeah i think your right. we make better friends than a couple but i still think over msg is a bit sad. its not the end of the world its not as if i was going to start abusing you or burst into tears =S. anyway no hard feelings right.

now how do you think i handled it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Trance

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not making any more contact whatsoever would be even better, but u did ok
 

TheChosenJuan

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Eh... You could have handled it much better.

"That's cool, I understand."

And simply moved on...
 

RFish

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OH Wow.

Dude if only 50% of the people seeking help here could learn this from you, we can save up on alot on database space and bandwidth space.

In conclusion: You handled it perfectly.

Now the really popular advise will be No Contact. Yes this has been proven and it works. No matter if you want to get her back, or you want to get back at her, in both ways initial no contact. If you are lost just follow this advise you will be fine.

However, if you are not affected by it you can be polite but indifferent. This is not a popular method but works just as well. Main thing being you are moving on and your attention is now for other things so if she wants to come into your life again in the future it is now her turn to work hard for it.

Hope it helps. =)


EDIT: Ok now I missed out something. Your reply to her was too long. If you could just write

" yeah i think your right. we make better friends than a couple. no hard feelings
That will be the best.
 

shaunuk

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Yeah, you did good. Like RFish said, your response wasn't word perfect, but we're humans, nothing ever is :)

You've turned the tables on her and agreed that you shouldn't be together anymore. This sets you up for possibly fvcking her in the future, and she'll probably be wondering why you don't seem particularly bothered. Best way to handle a sh1tty situation.

Get back in the game.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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