GF best friend getting involved with our relationship.

[jigga23]

What do you do when a gf's best friend gets involved? ive been with her for 1.5years. MY gfs best friend told her she shouldnt be with me and she doesnt even know me she never met me or anything but my gf use to say "I listen and do whatver my best friend tells me". remeber my gf is 25 yrs old. so freakin childish. yea maybe in the begininng of everything it was rocky and I got pissed a lil bit but serisouldy she was doing stupid things then things got good. recently my gf went home for vacation her grandma is sick and shes emotional. i knew somehting was up when she was syaing certain things. So she got back today and i confronted her about it. And she went on to say blah blah and my best friend said i should'nt be with you and I (GF) should be alone to find myself really funny stuff. i was willing to bet my paycheck that her best friend DID NOT have a boyfriend currently and what do you know i was right. this is always happens. so i threaten to pack up my stuff and leave and acutally started too. and she basically said she doesnt want me to leave. but how do i overcome her dumb friends which dont know anything at all. because its messing up everything. I do want things to work but honestly i really didnt do anything to deserve this. Im not goin to next cause shes emotional and irrational but i will give her space. but what about her friends?

 

[Distant Light]

Best bet is to meet her and just like if you were in a 2 set disarm the obstacle. (your gf best friend) Your going to have to befriend her if you want her to stop with all that stuff. Thats the only way i can think of because i know if you get rude with her its going to make it worst for you and cause your gf to listen to her best friend.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This doesn't have anything to do with your girlfriend's best friend. The problem is your girlfriend, you said it yourself. Because of her age (lack of experience and relationship maturity) she reacts to relationship turmoil like a can of soda that's shaken and then opened to spew all over the place. What's worse is that she's spewing to her girlfriend who has the same relationship frame as her.

Face it, this is normally common place when dating young inexperienced women. The only solution is to take the reigns of the situation. This doesn't mean coming down on her or her girlfriend. You need to take control of your actions first. That's the root of the problem, isn't it?

You are going to devise a plan to orchestrate your relationship so your girlfriend comes to you about issues and the two of you can work on a solution together without any outside influences.

You need to use what drives women to your advantage. They long for connecting with someone, for that unique bond. You probably think that you can't have that bond when you are having relationship problems but that is one of the best times to create, use and cultivate that bond. It's the two of you working together to solve things before someone feels that it's necessary to go outside of the relationship to create that bond.