Gf + B Day = Dark Past

[Paid Laid & Made]

Somebody make this day stop.

I just discovered another very disturbing piece of information. Was chilling at my friends house with the GF and both of us were macking our girls. He wants to go upstairs with his and throws me his truck keys ... He put a queen size mattress in the truck bed complete with pillows and blankets. We start going at it in the back of the truck and she cries, for no apparent reason during sex. We stop and she crawls over in the corner and cries. Everntually we get out due to me wanting to bring her back to my place and her wanting to spend the night before we got started. I finally get her to my place where she breaks down on my bed crying, telling me that she got raped when she was 16 (vaginal + anal) by a 20 year old in the back of a truck. She told me that she was a virgin and I was her first lover. She never told anyone but me and begged not to discuss it with my friends or her mom. Needless to say it was my birthday 2:24 AM in the morning and we both just fell asleep. This morning she did not want to be touched for 3 hours and when I drove her finally home, she told me that she loves me so much. She told me that she is not a freak and does not like doing IT all the time and I have to find somebody else if I am not okay with her not being like that. I am very lost, how should I deal with this situation? Should I just let her go or deal with her past and continue having feelings? This counts as the most horrible b-day ever.

 

[tactic]

Dude, that sucks!

I mean if her story was true then I feel really bad about it... But then again, how could she say this when it's your birthday? I find that horrible to hear man. You know it's kinda (How should I say it..) stupid to say it when your 'favorite' day comes up. Remember, if she don't want it, you're not going to get rejected by sex. It's your world, and she's not going to f* it up.

edit:: Heh, oops forgot something there that you said... I guess you should understand her a bit since she got raped in the back of the truck and it must've given her a harsh memory of what happened... Don't let yourself down 'cause of this... Try doing something different for a change today. It will help.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Worst part, she granted me pity sex for my birthday present. She layed there, while I did my thing and she just yawned at me and asked if I was about to finish, making sure to mention her back was hurting and she was tired and pissed off.

 

[tactic]

She better lose her attitude.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

She blamed it on being tired and moody. I am still very suprised by these revelations and I am trying desperately to deal with all of this information.

 

[am4591]

If she's tired and moody, you don't need to be with her. If it were me, I'd have found an excuse to end it early, take her home, and do something else.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

I should have. I went AFC p*ssy.

 

[oda]

i know that this a pretty big generalization and it might not hold true for every instance, but i always find that staying away from girls that were abused raped or from a broken home. they usually carry a lot of emotional baggage that will in turn change your mood to a ****ty one quick

thats my experience hope it helps some

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Nothing like a "made-up" rape story to get your bf to back off on sex.

Yeah right, she was raped in the back of a truck. More like she pulled a sex sh1t test on you.

You've got 3 choices now.

1. Ignore the bs rape story (of course you can't straight up ignore it) but just keep on doing whatever you were doing before. But recognize she doesn't like the "slutty" sex stuff like screwing in the back of truck. Not exactly suave if you know what I mean (although alot of chicks like sex in public places but you have to test that out first.)

2. Tell her you understand where she is coming from and you can sympathise with her but sex is important to you so you're going to have to move on. She'll straighten up pretty quick, crying and all. You won't be suffering from a lack of sex when she remembers how fast her feelings surfaced when you called her on sex sh1t test.

3. Move on. Hey maybe the rape story is true. Damaged "crying during sex" chicks are never worth your time in the long-run.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Well it gets more interesting.

She told me straight out that she wants to continue having sex, just today was non-emotion sex, with some *****yness and moodyness added to our already mounting problems. I thought about it just being a **** test ... well I seriously can't handle many of these in the long run.

 

[JohnJones]

Assuming its true (and I would think you would have to, otherwise I'd be worried about being with someone who could fabricate such a story), there is nothing wrong or AFC about calmly explaining that you understand she has a lot to deal with and to sort through and that she probably isn't ready for a full sexual relationship but that you are. Then it's done.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Paid, Laid & Made
Well it gets more interesting.

She told me straight out that she wants to continue having sex, just today was non-emotion sex, with some *****yness and moodyness added to our already mounting problems. I thought about it just being a **** test ... well I seriously can't handle many of these in the long run.

I'd keep an eye out for stuff like that again. You don't deserve to be the bellhop who carries her emotional baggage. I mean, she may be damaged and may be deserving of sympathy, but you shouldn't force yourself to continue a relationship where you're not satisfied just out of sympathy or pity.

That being said, don't know how long you've been with this girl. If it's only been a month or so, you may want to eject just to be safe...back off nice and slow.

If you've been with her for a while and you've fooled around before and you ahve fun with her, then maybe you just hit on a sore spot. Just don't try to do her in vehicles any more. See how it works out.

If she pulls that "pity sex" or "rape trauma" stuff again with you, it'll probably be an ongoing thing and you should back away, nice and slow.

 

[myfriendblu]

NEXT NEXT NEXT. Any girl who has ANY time of previous sexual abuse/trama is automatic grounds for a NEXTing. Been there done that. Its a huge red flag, as big a flag as it gets. There usually very tramatized, and big mess to deal with. Let someone else deal with her. NEXT and move on.

 

[tactic]

He's not going to NEXT somebody if he's going out with her already... (I apologize If I am wrong about this, but someone has made a good point that NEXT should be used on chicks you are not going out yet.)

He loves her too and it's hard to lose someone like that... Think of it, after months and months of being good GF and BFs and then things happen for a while and if he hits on her...
Wait another week and he might be thinking that he must've been crazy for doing this. That's why it's not easy and it takes alot of thinking... They love each other, and they both know that is a fact.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

I have been friends with girls that got raped or been sexually abused. Yes, they are normally suffering from very deep mental damage. They might not show it but they do, in this instance she has already told me that she is very depressed about it again and old feelings have popped up. She is currently happy with our relationship though and is doing her best to just look toward the future.