GF and I broke up, and live in samll town.

[shock]

So a couple days ago my GF and I broke up. These last couple days were spent pretty much finalizing things, giving eachother's stuff back etc.

I'm 22, and I have been in prolly 3 serious relationships lasting about a year. I have never had to really live in the same city/town as my ex. Two were long distance, and the other one I ended up moving anyway.

So now this. I live in a small mountain town. A good girl is hard to come by. Well for the last 9 months I had one, and now we're done.

So how do i go about this? There is one bar that seems like everyone goes to. Surely we will run into eachother at the bar, store, park, etc.

So how should this effect us? Should we try to remain firends...keep things somewhat civil? (this is kinda her idea) I really don't want to have to maintain a firendship right now. I really love the girl..and this will be a tough one to swallow, so I'm pretty much lost as to where to go from here.

Thanks peeps

 

[shock]

yes your correct... um anyway, anyone else?

 

[banGbro]

She broke up because she was banging someone other than you, so dont worry about it. Its her problem. No, dont be friends, treat her like any other new female you meet.


She wont be hanging out at the bar.


Just put on your brest, body language, etc, etc.. Get desirable. Find another chick, and start banging her.



Small towns suck, so its best to relocate. But do that so you could find more women, not because you are afraid of her. She is afraid of you, because shes a damn cheater, low value b1tch. Adopt this attitude right away.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Women tend to be weak, weak creatures. If they break up with you, it is usually because there is another man in the picture. Rarely do women choose loneliness over a current relationship. I am not saying it never happens. I have seen it happen before. But it is more often that I see it happen over another man.

 

[realsmoothie]

Heh. I live in a city of about 300k people... but I live downtown and it's getting to the point that after about five years here I see the same people over and over.

Get used to seeing people that you used to date. It's gonna happen. Don't worry... in small towns everybody knows everything, that's just the way it works.

 

[Bible_Belt]

When and if you see her, treat her about the same as if you were still together - keep it light and be entertaining. Try to laugh and flirt with her like she were any other girl - joke, laugh, and leave. Don't act awkward or depressed. If you talk to her, try to make your voice sound like it is the best day of your life.

 

[penkitten]

shock...
welcome to the single life, full of whatever you want to make it.
you have two options ahead of you.
1. cry in your milk, think negative thoughts and walk around sad and lonely
OR
2. get out there and have some fun!


in reality, nine months is just a short time. how do you know she would have been a good girl forever? well, you just never know these things.
you can run into her and say hi and be funny, but walk away knowing that you are a good guy and that those are hard to come by too.

spend some time doing the things that you like to do, the kind of things you havent done in the past few months and when you are done with them, do some more things that you always wanted to do, but never really had the chance to do them.

spend some time with your buddies, play some pool, shoot some hoops, watch some games and go to some clubs. talk to who ever you want to, why the heck not?

this doesnt have to be sad, it could very well be the best thing that has ever happened. so many experiences are out there waiting for you to enjoy.