Gf and Going to Parties?!

[LegendBoy]

Alright my gf asked me if she could go to her cousins 21st which is on sunday, she asked on friday. She then said if you don't want me to go, I don't want to go. I said Ye I dont want you to go because I trust you but the guys there could be really bad and you never know.

She then said to me she was definetly not going. Fast forward saturday night on msn to her friend who said to me oh she asked if she should go or not right after she got off the phone to you.

1) Either this was just a bluff question
2) Honest question by my gf still undecided.
3) Or like two of my gf's previous friends that have liked me this could be another and just be a lie. Her trying to break us up?

I am fairly angry at the moment. If she did go what reaction would be best suited?

If she didn't go I am going to ask her if she asked her friend that or not if she didn't her friend has an agenda? Which could be?

Cheeers

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Whats wrong with her going to her cousins birthday party? Why don't you go with her?

 

[LegendBoy]

There are reasons why we both know I can't go. But this is a 21st and its like dj and music and ****. Probably the party you don't want your gf at.

 

[AlexTheGreat]

hmmm party with a dj and some music, sounds to me like a good time. What's wrong with her going? Are you afraid she's that feeble-minded that she'll cheat on you at the first party she goes to?

 

[comic_relief]

you know your girlfriend better than anyone on this website, does your girlfriend get trashed and slvtty with alcohol? Or is she entirely attached to you?

Judge her character and how she is. Just because someone goes to a party doesn't mean they will cheat.

Have you been to parties without your girlfriend? Most likely you have and have you cheated on her?

I know that I haven't.

The most likely thing that I would have done was set down the "rules of what is acceptable." I do this early in the relationship like the first month of the relationship.

Things that I have on the list for her:
- grinding on other guys (or girls)
- cheating
- lying (on big things)
- pulling a Sheri (ex-girlfriend that was a complete psycho)

Things that she has on the list for me:
- going to strip clubs
- grinding on other girls
- cheating
- lying (on big things)
- pulling a Rusty (ex-boyfriend of hers who was a jealous @$$hole)
- not showing her porn

thats pretty much the entire list and most is just common sense. If I won't do something, then my girlfriend usually won't.

comic_relief

 

[ready123]

you know what, if you don't trust your girlfriend enough that you can't let her go to a damn b-day party, just do both of yourselves a favor and break up with her. in the long run it's just gonna be headaches for both of you what you're afraid of, being cheated on, could happen anyway if she resents you putting her on lockdown

any girl who's decent looking is gonna be getting hit on by guys from now til they're 35 and you're not always gonna be there to ****block. I don't get why guys who don't trust their girl throw themselves into exclusive relationships when they can't handle the possibility of being burnt

 

[LegendBoy]

I am always scared of what could happen to my girl at a party. Because I know guys who raped girls or have tried too. And they throw them in a corner or room and force it.

Ye thats why I do not want her going. If she doesn't want me to go I wouldn't either.

And the thing her friend told me what are your thoughts on that? Because I am kind of angry if my gf said that after talking to me.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I think you are worrying too much and maybe, being over protective of your girl. Your girl will be with her cousin. Don't you think her cousin would look after her? It's only a party and girls just want to have fun. Keep her locked up in a little cage and don't let her go to partys. Eventually, she will leave you because of your insecuritys. As for the phone conversation. I wouldn't say anything or get upset. Unless, she went to that party behinde your back when, she said she wouldn't.

Now, why can't you go to this party with her? Is it at a bar or club where you have to be 21 to get into? Or is it at someone's house? Cause if it's at a place where you don't have to be 21. Why doesn't your girl invite you or you go with her?

 

[Snow Plowman]

you know what, if you don't trust your girlfriend enough that you can't let her go to a damn b-day party, just do both of yourselves a favor and break up with her. in the long run it's just gonna be headaches for both of you what you're afraid of, being cheated on, could happen anyway if she resents you putting her on lockdown

any girl who's decent looking is gonna be getting hit on by guys from now til they're 35 and you're not always gonna be there to ****block. I don't get why guys who don't trust their girl throw themselves into exclusive relationships when they can't handle the possibility of being burnt

I'm with you on this one...as far as her being 35 and not being hit on...lets just say my mother is still getting hit on lol.

Anyway, to me I think guys who act like that is very lame and insecure deep down because your realizing that your stopping someone from having a good time and living there life. Like "Ready123" stated if you can't even let her go to a party you might as well break up with her.

I never understood how guys could be so worried especially if they're on a "Seduction" site...the reason you learn this is to improve who you are and have options. If you haven't had an abundance mentality then your going to end up scared to let her go out and have fun.

I guess you should watch her 24/7 because someone might end up talking to her.

Its funny how everyone thinks that if there girl goes to a party she is automatically going to start sucking some dik and making out with the world...heck if it was that easy you wouldn't have sites like this because then everyone would go to the club because you will get makeouts regardless...which is actually wrong.

Plain and simple if you don't want your chick to cheat then be the coolest guy in the world in her mind. You telling her she can't go certain places as if your her mother can only hurt you.

 

[LegendBoy]

Read your responses and you guys have a point about letting her go. I usually do just the crowd was older and I don't trust the other guys..

If she went when I told her not too. Which I doubt. But is a possibility what can I do? I would normally go off at a gf and tell her shes a liar. Thats its going to be hard to trust her because she lied etc etc. Or just dump her or keep her and treat her like ****.

 

[MooseGod]

Either you're dating a complete slut or you're really fvcking insecure. How long have you been going out with this chick?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Read your responses and you guys have a point about letting her go. I usually do just the crowd was older and I don't trust the other guys..

If she went when I told her not too. Which I doubt. But is a possibility what can I do? I would normally go off at a gf and tell her shes a liar. Thats its going to be hard to trust her because she lied etc etc. Or just dump her or keep her and treat her like ****.

Your age says your 19. You are still young!! Don't be hung up on one girl. Go out to partys yourself and meet other girls. I'm not saying go cheat on your girl. But, just flirt with some girls and get their numbers. So, if sh!t did ever hit the fan you got people to fall back on. Hell, you might meet someone you like better! Just sit back and enjoy the ride. If your girlfriend ever did anything unfaithfull you would be able to tell by her actions. So, until she fvcks up.. enjoy the pvssy you got now.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Quit blaming other guys -it is your girl who you do not trust!! Why don't you trust her? I have an idea why!

IF she does things behind your back then that's another issue!