"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm a university student who just finished his first year. I started reading the stuff on this website and forum since last summer, and somehow managed to get an amazing inner and outer game which got girls interested in me, and also got me in a good mood all the time.

It was great in the first term, I would have no trouble meeting people, being ****y and funny etc, not seeming needy. I guess you could say I was one of the coolest most popular guys amongst my new friends, and I really felt like it too.

But now things have changed; somehow I've converted back into my old AFC self and I am doing **** with women in general, I have a lack of confidence to approach and to make jokes, I don't know what to say when I meet a woman so I don't meet them at all, I'm not feeling on top of my game. I'm getting worse, and I just can't seem to remember, or re'feel' the feelings, attitudes and behaviours I felt during my first term.

During the first term, my confidence was through the roof, I had no trouble with women, it felt as though I didn't even need to break a sweat and I could get them to feel attracted to me, what with kino, humour, interesting talk, utter inner confidence etc. And now its just all gone.

Has anyone else had a problem like this? I'll keep at it, I'm utterly determined to succeed with women and life in general and become a true Don Juan, but I'm finding it tough to permanently change and internalise my behaviour and approach towards things. I'm getting stressed out, and I feel so inhibited that I can't behave in the way I want to.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I suggest that you forget about the Hot Babes who are constantly within your own normal environment and try to meet Hot Babes who you can see again if you want to but don't have to see them again if they reject you, I myself never attempt to win over a Hot Babe who I know that I am going to have to see alot of, such as in a school, college, work environment etc, what I would do is walk into a place like a shop, bar, gym, etc where you never have to go again and try to pick up a Hot Babe in that environment. :yes:
 

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Cheers man. I think your right about the right environment to approach girls in... I've lost a few friends this way by being flirty while my game was down.
 

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it just happens sometimes..try to concentrate on other things..and just do it..do not expect the results,u will get what you want when you do it right eventually.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I will use some of the material of carlos xuma to describe how i see your situation,you're on an "downward spiral" which means the longer you believe you're going down the lower you get.
 
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