Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm a university student who just finished his first year. I started reading the stuff on this website and forum since last summer, and somehow managed to get an amazing inner and outer game which got girls interested in me, and also got me in a good mood all the time.

It was great in the first term, I would have no trouble meeting people, being ****y and funny etc, not seeming needy. I guess you could say I was one of the coolest most popular guys amongst my new friends, and I really felt like it too.

But now things have changed; somehow I've converted back into my old AFC self and I am doing **** with women in general, I have a lack of confidence to approach and to make jokes, I don't know what to say when I meet a woman so I don't meet them at all, I'm not feeling on top of my game. I'm getting worse, and I just can't seem to remember, or re'feel' the feelings, attitudes and behaviours I felt during my first term.

During the first term, my confidence was through the roof, I had no trouble with women, it felt as though I didn't even need to break a sweat and I could get them to feel attracted to me, what with kino, humour, interesting talk, utter inner confidence etc. And now its just all gone.

Has anyone else had a problem like this? I'll keep at it, I'm utterly determined to succeed with women and life in general and become a true Don Juan, but I'm finding it tough to permanently change and internalise my behaviour and approach towards things. I'm getting stressed out, and I feel so inhibited that I can't behave in the way I want to.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I suggest that you forget about the Hot Babes who are constantly within your own normal environment and try to meet Hot Babes who you can see again if you want to but don't have to see them again if they reject you, I myself never attempt to win over a Hot Babe who I know that I am going to have to see alot of, such as in a school, college, work environment etc, what I would do is walk into a place like a shop, bar, gym, etc where you never have to go again and try to pick up a Hot Babe in that environment. :yes:
 

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Cheers man. I think your right about the right environment to approach girls in... I've lost a few friends this way by being flirty while my game was down.
 

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it just happens sometimes..try to concentrate on other things..and just do it..do not expect the results,u will get what you want when you do it right eventually.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I will use some of the material of carlos xuma to describe how i see your situation,you're on an "downward spiral" which means the longer you believe you're going down the lower you get.
 
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