Getting worse at sex as time goes on...

[styleman]

I'm 20, had sex about four times with four different girls.
The first time I think I performed quite well, lasted about 40 mins. and I'm more than pretty sure she came twice.
The second time, I lasted about 30 mins. but only 15 mins of straight ****ing, then I went limp, she was about to come and I finished her off with mouth/hands.
The third time, I lasted not longer than 5 mins of straight penetration, and I was self admittedly ****.
The last time, this evening, I found it hard to get it up... Then I came within about two mins....

What the hell is with me guys...
One point to mention is that the 1st girl was by far the hottest and they've got progressively less hot...

 

[WC2]

It's all in your head.

Everyone goes through patches of bad sex. Usually it comes in patches because it's all mental. The best way to go about sex is to know in your mind that you can please any woman you meet. Any negative thoughts are counter-productive to the whole process. For god sake, just have fun with it.

4 times is not a lot of sex and I can tell you that I wasn't even versed in how to please a woman properly until I had sex at least 10 - 20 times. Don't sweat it and just have fun and learn. Every gal is different. Some come easily, some will never come in their entire lives. It's not you, it's them.

 

[styleman]

It's all in your head.

Everyone goes through patches of bad sex. Usually it comes in patches because it's all mental. The best way to go about sex is to know in your mind that you can please any woman you meet. Any negative thoughts are counter-productive to the whole process. For god sake, just have fun with it.

4 times is not a lot of sex and I can tell you that I wasn't even versed in how to please a woman properly until I had sex at least 10 - 20 times. Don't sweat it and just have fun and learn. Every gal is different. Some come easily, some will never come in their entire lives. It's not you, it's them.

Thanks for the positive response

One thing I want to also ask is, do you think one performs better with a girl one is really into and has intimate feelings for (not necessarily the best looking) or is it more to do with how attractive they are?

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I think sometimes it depends. If I had to beg for it, it tends to be disappointing. But sometimes it feels good to be teased at first. I guess I like to see that the girl is really into it.

 

[slickaz]

scientifically speaking and from experience:
Yes, you have better s3x and performance when you're with someone you are intimate with. as in your brain releases more hormones called dopamine when you're with this person than it does with others because you've wired your brain to hv good feelings when you see her. and dopamine is a s3xual enhancer..you get a ton more feelings around your body, your bloods gushing faster and you're pupils dilate etc. ready to fornicate the monkey out this lady..

There was a study done a while back on WHY some people pick certain types of s3xual relationships:
Casual sex: risk, mystery, urgency and focus on physical satisfaction.
Early love: mutual feelings, yearning, giving, affection and focus on physical satisfaction and emotional fulfilment.
Long-term relationship: knowledge, trust, skill, experimentation and focus on deepening physical and emotional satisfaction.

i believe personally that s3x is best shared with someone you're in a deep relationship with because ive experienced more fulfillment in that. but when its not available you have to do with casual for physical satisfaction