"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Getting women IS a numbers game!, it's that simple!

Demonicale

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I've come to realise (after years) that getting women is just down to this and this alone.

EVEN if your not THAT great looking or that confident.

If you just approach,talk,dance with, EVEN LOOK AT WOMEN (EC) or even sending emails or fb crap.

If you do this as much as possible, ONE person WILL get with you!.

Actually maybe i should'nt write this like i know everything, as i don't and plan to adopt this attitude now.

So what do you guy's think, is it a way forward?.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Demonicale

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neghitzbrah said:
Thanks :D lol

Now i just need a confident ice breaker ... cause i feel that i'm going to be rejected to hell and back at first :rockon:
 

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I think its definitely a numbers game but your proportion of successes vs failures gets a lot better if you have things going for you like game, looks, or money.

So if you're an antisocial fat slob who has no money then you're going to have to go through way more failures first.
 

Demonicale

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flint said:
I think its definitely a numbers game but your proportion of successes vs failures gets a lot better if you have things going for you like game, looks, or money.

So if you're an antisocial fat slob who has no money then you're going to have to go through way more failures first.
Well i'd say i'm average looks, confident and can easily speak to people once the ice is broken ... so i may be ok .. i hope haha
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Totally agree with you. Focus on improving your conversational skills, being sexual, and make sure you're on top of your grooming/exercise and it really is a numbers game after that.

Many women aren't looking for your type, and you'll find that many women are not the type for you. It's only through exposure that you see what works and what doesn't!
 

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Good job. I too have made this realization recently and it has given me a lot of power. No longer are you hung up over one woman when you realize that you will never run out of opportunities.

Approach, Get Numbers, Call, Set up dates, Repeat. Its that simple.
 

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No.

Not for me anyway.

I think the smartest thing David DeAngelo ever said was "its not like hunting, its like fishing".

If you chase after something, it will run away. You must cause women to chase after you.

How? By being the prize. That's not just a mindset, it must be a reality. You must be the kind of guy that is attractive to women.

Strong, masculine, confident, humourous, high-status, sexy. It is a constant struggle to attain these traits. The game is played internally, against your own laziness and inertia. To win the game you have to conquer that sense of helplessness and proactively institute habits that over time hone you and mould you into an attractive man.

Then the rest just falls into place. You will have so many options that it will seem laughable to think that dating is a numbers game. The women line up for you now, hoping you will choose them over all of the other hopeful girls.

You will develop an aura of success. Rejection from hot women won't even be a consideration to you anymore. You will notice it, if you ask a woman for intimacy and she has to reject you because she is already in a relationship, you will see the disappointment and frustration in her face, you will see the internal moral struggle she is enduring as she fights to resist the temptation to **** you because she is trying to do the right thing by her bf, but in that present moment, all her instincts and all her desires are saying "just **** him".

That's what I feel anyway. I think that approaching it like a numbers game will create an aura around you that reeks of desperation. Failure will breed failure and you'll get sexually frustrated and malcontent.

Thats not to say that rejection cannot make you stronger, it can. But only if you honestly believe that it is her loss, and you are proactively spending hours and hours everyday honing your attractiveness and becoming a more desirable man.

Eventually, with consistent effort, it won't be a numbers game, because you'll have too many to choose from and you will be more focussed on your own life anyway to care about women too much.
 
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Very well said, Mr. d!ckmojo. Very well said indeed.

I am compelled to rep you for articulating brilliantly.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This was something I realized on my own before I even came to Sosuave. IMO, it takes away the desperation. Why would you be desperate for this one approach when she is the 6th woman you've approached that day? Especially if you've already been successful.
 
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