"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Getting too ****y..

BxPrince24

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Yep... First I was an AFC then I found middle ground and now I'm a little too much ****y. I was chillin with a girl who wanted me to do something for her yesterday and she started getting pissed. When I noticed that I tried to tone it down a bit and do what she asked. But it came back again and I guess it was weird but she said " Just do this for me, after you do it I wont bother you again because it seem's like I'm disturbing you" so I said "Ahhh I see, so you just want to wipe your ass with me then flush me down the toilet huh? Get out" I still ended up doing it for her though. When she left with her friend, don't know if she was kidding or not but she said that she thinks I'm crazy. What should I do other than reviewing the bible?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JaguarMike

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You called her on her game, and she got mad. My friend always is getting on my case because my ego always gets in the way and I do the same stuff you did, like "how about you do it." etc. Not in a funny way but in a mean way, what ends up happening? No girl.

If you want this girl, you'll have to get rid of your ego, but i'm not gunna lie I hardly ever do that with girls like that, I hate girls that have stupid power games and never drop them. So I end up dropping them.

Maybe you're looking at it wrong too, instead of you being too ****y, maybe she's being too much of a f-ucking bytch.
 

octane_orphan

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Hey,

As far as I can see 'too ****y' = arrogant ... you may not be that but that may be how your coming accross. Course never give a woman all she wants ... but once in a while you have to cut some slack and do what she wants, while all be it compeletly convaying your doing it becasause you want to ... not because she might thrown a little tantrum.
 

Movin on up

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In my experience, I get called ****y, A$$hole, full of myself. But the topper was a girl that called me.

A self absorbed $hit Head.

Needless to say most of the woman that call me that. I hear from friends that they want me or whatever. They go around telling their friends how I am. And the one that called me a self absorbed Shlt head .
Well yeah last weekend she was tugging on my DIk begging to kiss her.

Any attention is good attention.
 

True Wolf

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Ok, let me explain a key element of being ****y: YOU NEED TO BE FUNNY!

The formula is C&F (****y and funny) dude, not just ****y.

You can be as ****y / full of yourself as you want, but you have to make sure the amount of funny you put in equals or outwieghs the ****y.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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It's called ****y AND Funny for a reason. Its not ****y OR Funny, its ****y AND Funny.

You need to stop making a concious effort to look arrogant and only use C&F when you have an opportunity to be both ****y AND Funny.

If she isn't laughing, which in this case she wasn't, you're just doing it wrong and coming off as a jacka$s.
 

Not Quite There

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yeah, i feel what your saying.

I think i was quite ****y and funny naturally, then after finding this site, i noticed myself just eben full on ****y and not funny.

Also, you got to make sure the girl is ona similar wavelength, people have differen't sense's of humour.
 

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i don't think it's much of a problem. in that situation you were just calling her out.

but, all or atleast most of us passed through the "jerk phase." i was afc then i read a ton of stuff, then i just became way too ****y. i mean, i would blatantly insult girls. funny thing is though, when i was doing that, i got the most attention and more girls were chasing me.

when you pass through it though, if you choose to pass through it that is, then you can start balancing yourself.
 
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