Getting too LoveyDovey with my GF

[WORKEROUTER]

My gf is away until December, we're close, and we've been dating since last November.

Anyway, I feel like I've become too loveydovey with her. In other words, I almost feel like I'm falling into that "adorable," stable, comfortable guy mode rather than the sexy, mysterious, dangerous mode I USE to be.

I don't like this and want to revert it. Any suggestions?

 

[DarkLight]

I feel you!
That sh!t happens when we're not looking. lol
Creeps so slow... you don't even notice it. Until oneday the feeling of being so (as funny as it sounds) unsexy thus powerless, bugs too much you have to take notice.

At least thats how it felt w. me, in my last relationship. (when that happened)

My suggestions would naturally be... break some of your behaivors w. her.
Change sh!t up. Throw her against the wall and take her like you never have before. Go down on her for ages, flip her over and spank her ass cheek harder than you ever have. Rub your hands up her back, pull her hair back... then fvck her in the a$$. lol

Sh!t like that, as far as sex goes. Change sh!t up.
I know when I'm in a LTR the sex naturally starts to fall into the similar patterns. Throw a wrench in that sh!t from time to time. I know we're lazy fvcks... but the electricity it pumps back into the interaction of the relationship is well worth it. Brings back those exact feelings you described. "Sexy, Mysterious, Dangerous"

Outside of the bedroom. Try doing dif. sh!t w. her. Like going somewhere random. Sneaking into a hotel's pool, late at night and skinny-dip. lol, whatever. Just start shattering the mold of "adorable, stable comftorable" guy.

Things were getting too predictable w. this 1 chick I was with. Too polished, cool. So oneday I took her to a second hand store, and told her to pick out the most insane, ugly, funny outfit she could. I did the same. I then took her to this pretty nice/cool restaraunt. You could imagine how it went. lol, it was fvckin hilarious. She loved the fact that I made her do that. She could ride on my strength to do something she would never in her life imagine being free enough to do. It was fun as hell, RANDOM as FVCK, and totally threw a wrench in everything she knew about me.

Needless to say... I then took her home, toar those fvcked clothes off, and ravaged her in a knew way. I know to this day, she still will remember that day as something incredible in many ways.

Break the routines. Fck w. her, but in positive, mysterious, adventurous ways.

Take her into an old rundown house, out in the desert... and fvck her. lol
It'll be scary... w. crazy/wild energy, etc.

Send her a silk red thong at work.
Wake her up at 3 in the morning, and tell her theres something crazy happening outside... come see! Then when she asks... "what is it?"...hold her hand, look her deep in the eyes w. seductive cheeky love, and say, "Me fvcking you underneath the stars."

lol, whatever.

Blow her off for a day or 2... then next time you see her, grab her in insane passionate lust. Kissing her like you never have before. And take her in heartbreaking desire. She won't know what the fvck hit her. Rest assured she'll be telling her gf's later on, she doesn't know what the fvck has gotten into you, but she loves it.

Bottom line... you have to reclaim that sexy unknown factor.
Break your routines, mix in some new behaivors, plan some random adventures.
I think you feel me.

SuaveOn'

 

[FightinTiger]

Ah, yes. The hard, masculine outer shell has been stripped away, leaving a melty, gooey, chocolatey center. Or vanilla, or strawberry, or whatever. Hehe. But you get my point.

It's okay. In the right circumstances, with the right woman, this is what you WANT to happen. Well, eventually anyway. It shows you've met a girl whom you believe to be so incredible that you can reveal the innermost parts of yourself and form a bond with her. This bond, as you probably know, is called Love.

Unfortunately, there are many girls that can make you feel these things that are truly not worth the pedestal you place them on. And that's where life becomes hard.

The true test of this relationship is right now. Currently, she's without you. Chances are, if she's a good person, she won't cheat. So, I wouldn't worry about that. If you DO worry about her cheating, then I suggest get out now before the REAL bull **** starts.

But, the reason why this is a major test is this: when girls go "away" for a while, they usually start "thinking." Trust me, this has happened to me. And when a girl starts "thinking" it can either spell DOOM to a relationship, or make it even better.

The choice is really not yours to make right now. If she's decided to break up with you, she will, no matter what you do. Only time will tell. However, there are a few things you can do to keep her attraction up.

1. Don't call her too often, maybe only once every couple of days. This one's a given. You don't wanna look too needy. See if she calls YOU. If she NEVER calls you, then I'm sorry to say you should probably look for a replacement for her. If she does, then you can still keep your hopes up.
   
   Also, here's a rule that you should follow: give her ONE compliment per conversation (unless you're having phone sex. Then you can have more, obviously). This way you don't sound too... well... wussy. But you still make her feel special. And then in addition to that compliment, every now and then (but not EVERY conversation) end the conversation with a lighthearted compliment, such as, "bye, cutie" or sexy buns, or whatever. Other times, end it with "bye, loser" or "bye poop-head" or some other lighthearted, 3rd grade insult. Hehe. This will throw her off. And she'll be interested to see which you choose at the end of each conversation.
   
   
2. Also, I don't know how you and her feel about phone sex (or sex in general) but, I suggest you have some erotic phone chats with her. If you already do this, be more creative. If she likes erotic stuff, talk erotically, with a lower voice, and use details. Try different fantasy locations and so forth. If she's freaky/kinky, tell her some crazy positions you wanna get her in. You get the idea. Tell her what you'll do to her when she gets back Trust me. This works WONDERS.
   
   
3. Last, send her a thanksgiving card. No, she won't think you're a wuss. It's a freaking card. She'd love it. Hell, she might even be mad at you that you DIDN'T give her a card. So, give her one. Put a little love in it, but not too much. Just enough nice words to get her to miss you, but don't pledge your undying love to her. got it?

Now, as far as when she gets back, IF she hasn't broken up with you within the first month, DON'T change your personality all of a sudden. She likes you for who you are. You don't have to change much. You've been together for long enough that you can be a little loveydovey. Just don't go overboard. Play it cool, and just remember how to be a pimp. Do crazy, spontaneous stuff. Things to keep her interested. I think you got a general idea of that sort of stuff from darklight. good luck, dude.

 

[DarkLight]

Now, as far as when she gets back, if she hasn't broken up with you within the first month, DON'T change what you're doing.

I think I would definetly sieze the opportunity, and DEF. change sh!t up, at that point. You'll be able to guage whether your losing her. So no need to worry bout that effect. You can always give her the comftorable good warm love, if you feel she needs those feelings, from you.

But a considerable amount of time will have passed, and the feelings w. seeing her again will already be new and fresh of themselves. So thats good. But the benefit to establish a new paradigm with her, christ... I couldn't think of a better time. It would have such validity. As if you seriously did change.

You can literally set a new tone w. her. A new paradigm, that caters more to the direction of interaction you want. Keeping your feelings more how you want them. Thus............... a healthier thing for everyone involved, the relationship specifically!

Remember... you can always shift back into the squishy cozy love patterns of behaivor you guys have now. Consider that your tension line, like in fishing.

If you pull too hard, you could snap the line. If you let it go too slack... the fish could get away. So thats your insurance policy. Excellent too... cause you already know how that dynamic of interaction is. You know how to create those feelings, etc. So... your safe to implement the new.

lol, Voila!

 

[FightinTiger]

Yeah, that's basically what I meant. I'm talking about all the sugar-sweetness he might be saying to her. I didn't mean don't be spontaneous or adventurous. You should ALWAYS strive to new and exciting.

But, what I meant was, don't all of a sudden change your place on the nice guy/jerk meter. If you are kind of a nice guy, stay that way. She likes that. Just be an INTERESTING, SPONTANEOUS, and EXCITING nice guy.

Girls like the fact that the guy they go streaking, bull-riding, and drinking with is the same guy that they can curl up on the couch and watch corny chick flicks with. Just remember to be the guy that lives on BOTH ends of the spectrum. Because, if you are, and she has her hands full with your incredible personality, YOU will have YOUR hands full with her incredible body in the bedroom.

-and that's word

 

[insanity]

chick flicks= instant lose. they make those movies for girls to all get together and sit and say crap like ahhh thats so sweet and getting all teary eyed and crap. if youn think you getting laid after titanic or free willy, think again. comedy is always good cause it ain't mushy and its something you can both laugh and enjoy.