Jon55 said:
Oh, there's no doubt B is the better choice. But is it possible to be in a relationship and maintain an "adventurousness" and "untamable-ness"? Perhaps one where she understands you like her and want to be (in a relationship) with her, but at the same time she understands that if she fvcks up in any way, you could leave and find another girl no problem? You know what I mean? Being in a relationship yet keeping her on her toes?
Anything is possible.
The only problem is that young women are commonly confused. They think they would like a relationship, but quickly grow out of it when they realize that the sexual intensity isn't where it used to be. They are no longer "swept off their feet."
They are then put into a dillema. Do they totally next the guy they used to be head over heels for, or do they just put them on the back burner while she tries to search for another man who will spark he sexual intensity again?
This is where breaks come from. This is why breaks are almost always the end game. Even if she does gain interest again for you, she always knows that taking another break is a possible option. If you want to be with a chick who occasionally likes to bang other guys, then that's your call. Some guys let their relationships get to this. Desperate it's called.
As a young man, I'm fully convinced that there is a higher road to be taken. And that is the road of manhood and improvement.
It's funny when you are your own man with no strings attached to women, how fast women actually come running.
I'll be honest, I love how my life is at the present moment.
I work at a brokerage firm as an intern 9-5 M-F. 4 out of 5 of these days I usually have options open when I get home. The same women who I **** and never talk to during the day still want to come back for more at night. It's unbelievable how set on sex some girls can be when you break them down to their true feminine. Half the nights I'm so tired of seeing the same girls that I blow them off and do something useful with myself. Read a book, work on a side project, goto the gym, bull**** with the boys.
On weekends it's time for fun. I go out with friends and at the same time search for new women to please my ever changing taste in what women I want. More times than not, I'll bring someone back and bam theres another option. I don't cling, sometimes i don't even ask this ***** for her number. The night was fun, it was fun finding out who you were (a dead fish in bed), see you never.
I'm not going to lie.. every now and then I will run into someone when I go out that is unlike most other women. They are not interested in my bull****, in fact they see right through me. I crave a woman like this when I do get into a relationship. And then I snap back into reality and tell myself that I'm 21 years old and have no reason to be thinking about that right now! Down the road, yes.
You see, by meeting all these women I've built a qualification system for myself. If I decided to choose a wife at the present moment I bet that my decision would be based on more experience and mistakes than most older chumps out there who have always "messed with a few girls in relationships" over the past 10 years of their life.
Congrats chump, so you learned what you want from 2 - 3 girls over the past 10 years. And with that, you got ***** from 3 women and heartbreak from 3 women as well.
No thanks, I'll take my road.
When I see younger guys in such serious relationships at a young age it makes me laugh to myself. Not at them, but at myself. I was THAT guy awhile ago and looking from the outside you can see much farther in than any chump in a relationship could see.
Bottom line is that relationships are for older individuals. By this time men like us have a much more educated idea of what woman we want and by that time the women aren't in "party mode" like they were back in their teens. They aren't trying to juggle 4 guys at once anymore. They just want financial security and personal security in knowing that their man will make them laugh, give them a wealthy life, and protect them. And yes, it's men like us who will eventually give it to them.
You didn't really think i was going to say I'd never marry did you?! haha, kids of my own are something I'd always want. However, that's way down the road
