"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Getting together

cNfny

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This girl that I've hung out with a few times about 2 weeks ago. At the time didn't think much of her looks wise so I just became dustant. Stumbled upon her myspace today and her looks really had a nice taste in my eyes so I figured I'd give another shot. I messaged her with this
"Hey cutie, I've been busy but let's get together soon for some stimulating conversations or something fun. Put those minutes to use and call me up."
Think she'll buy it? Ha
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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cNfny

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Woops forgot to mention that I told her to call because I lost her number. But I actually just realized I saved it under a different name (inside joke we had) did I give away my power by suggestin she call me in the message?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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cNfny said:
Woops forgot to mention that I told her to call because I lost her number. But I actually just realized I saved it under a different name (inside joke we had) did I give away my power by suggestin she call me in the message?
Yes, you gave it away BUT since you have it, USE IT! You can swing this to your favor pretty easily.
 

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Should I use it ASAP or wait it out? Maybe miss her call then return it with plans to meet up?
 

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You messaged her. Wait to see if she at least messages you back. If you can, read the status of your message. If it says it's been read, and you don't receive a phone call in about a week, then I'd call her, but do so during the week and not on the weekend. Like a Tuesday.

The way I see it. You messaged her, so if you turn around and call her, even though you say you just found her number, she's gonna think you're needy. Then again, if she doesn't call after reading your message her interest might be low anyway.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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