"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Getting to That Point Where Rejection From Women Doesn't Hurt Anymore

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Hey, if you're into hefty women, I envy you. Much better options...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I appreciate your additional response, Skirtchaser. And your attire suggestions are typically the way I tend to dress formally. That said, I would like to believe that if a woman genuinely likes a man, she wouldn't judge him primarily on the basis of the way he dresses. Sometimes, the clothes do not make the man. And I wouldn't really want you to think of me as being proud of my body. That's not exactly how I see it. I guess it's a novelty to me to notice how superficial many women in this country are, given the transformation that has taken place in me from my skinny days up until now.
 

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Frank2500 said:
That said, I would like to believe that if a woman genuinely likes a man, she wouldn't judge him primarily on the basis of the way he dresses.
and most women won't be judgemental of your dress. i mean, you should have no problem picking up women in sneakers, jeans and a t-shirt to be honest.

but, when you are dressed up it does increase their interest level in you. its not enough to make a woman who isn't interested suddenly become interested. but its enough to make a woman who is interested, even more interested.

i mean, sometimes in the summer i'll come across a chic with a hot little body and wearing one of those flowing summer dresses - and if she pulled the look off right its like something out of a porno dream sequence.

so while i had to be attracted to her to start with - provided i was, her choice in dress can impact just how interested i become initially.

now all that said, once you open your mouth how you are dressed won't help you.
 
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