Getting tired of this... really need help.

[Leopold]

Well like many of you recommended I stopped focusing on online dating. I did get a lot of results and replies but they all pretty much stopped messaging me once I asked for their numbers. Managed to get 1 but no reply from it.

Well anyhow... My goal for this upcoming month is to improve my game on interaction on the real life.

However, I find myself struggling with the same thing over and over again. Girls that pass by totally ignore me. I see them checking me out from the distant but once they get close... they dont do eye contact, look below and sometimes they even look to the horizon like robots. (did I mentioned the ones with sunglasses? I hate those. They seem so snobby)

In contrast... I see myself doing a lot of eye contact with guys. I usually see myself saying hi, hello and nodding to them and vice versa. I feel like many of them look up to me.

I'm walking confident, shoulders high, I dont look scary, I'm friendly because I smile/smirk.

So what seems to be the problem?

Im very certain they feel a lot attraction... its just they are afraid of rejection or something? I cant figure it out.

I'm thinking of start and initiate a convo regardless and see what happens but I really want that initial eye contact to send the sparks flying.

Help me out guys, I really need help :/

 

[pdx1138]

sounds like your projecting yourself properly in the physical sense...

how's the mental side?

make sure you are unaffected and as happy go lucky as you look even if you get what you interpret as a snub.

Just keep that mindset and things will fall into place.

 

[floydb25]

You have to approach and conversate. That's the only way to find out for sure. Not many women are going to approach you initially, though they will after you get the ball rolling for the first time. You don't want to only go after girls who you know 100% are going to like you. You gotta face the possibility of rejection, because not a lot of girls will. They also won't throw all their interest at you at once. You gotta ease your way in, and go with the flow. Their interest will be pretty clear, but you gotta initiate at least once, and invite them into your space. You don't have to show interest, either. Just get a conversation going, and feel their vibes from there.

You can't be passive, and wait for women to approach and show interest. That's why a lot of guys get looks, but not dates. They don't do anything! The girls who DO approach are usually the players, *****es, and *****s. Don't wait and end up with crap. Go out there and hunt. That's what men are supposed to do.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Leopold. You are a man. It is natural instinct to lead. You cannot wait for a girl to approach you. You have to take what you want. If you see a girl you need to walk up and spit to them. A simple stop and a how are you doing won't hurt anyone.

Shyness and fear of rejection is many guys problems. So what if you get rejected? It doesn't mean sh*t. You are the man and your supposed to approach what you want. Not vice versa. Be bold and be confident.

 

[Hustlaz Ambition]

Minimizing the amount of masturbation(or the complete elimation of it rather) helps A TON with going on the hunt for females. Your approach anxiety issues WILL go away if you stop masturbating. Theres also this other aspect to it that I really can't explain, but it's like females can pick up on the Testosterone coming out of you. I reccomend you try this Leopold if you haven't yet.

 

[ezio]

you can start by making a lot of male friends esp people who're outgoing. that way you broaden your social circle and get to meet even more people, girls included. you'll find that the more friends you have the easier it is to make new ones.

 

[Leopold]

Is not about afraid of rejection. Seriously... I'm not afraid no more of that (That's a lie but I should say to a lesser extent).

The problem is mainly with people I encounter while passing by. It's hard to start a conversation when avoiding eye contact literally means avoid.

I'm just going to have to bite my tongue, embrace my guts and roll out with the punches and see what happens.

 

[floydb25]

Avoiding eye contact - especially up close - may not mean avoid them. They could be shy, thinking you're just being friendly... Any number of issues. Women fear rejection more than we do. You can't tell for certain unless you approach.

Walking by might not be the best idea, either, because people are obviously going somewhere. Try in stores, as they're looking around, waiting in line, working in the aisles, cashiering, taking your order, standing outside... Still environments are better than passing ones. Just like how picking up girls as they're in shopping malls isn't the best idea. They're just looking to get clothes, and are always on the move. You want to be stationed, where you can be by them and just start chatting them up. Not walking by and smiling, or saying hi. They're either gonna do the same thing, or avoid you. Unless they know you, they're just gonna keep walking regardless. You could also try parks, libraries, restaurants, anywhere people are still. This is why bars and online dating - despite being cluttered with trash - are good places to meet women... Just not any quality ones. They're still, social environments. They go in expecting to chat and date.