itishe said:
I've been seeing this girl for over a month now. We've went on multiple dates (over 10 atleast) and she still won't put out.
She's a virgin, and very insecure of her body... sounds like a hardcase for me to crack. I've tried to be a little more lovey-dovey/AFC with her in hopes that'd help crack her, it probably did the opposite.
Should I straight up ignore her for a few weeks? That way I can repair the AFC damage I've done and maybe she'll start realizing she needs to spread her legs.
Assume the seduction.
So you two are alone, don't mention a thing about sex. She's at your house, you have candles around.
What happens during sex? No lights, candles, incense, slow music etc...
So,
You: Here lit them candles will you? I'll try and find some incense (Casually)
Not mentioning a thing about sex.
Come back with incense:
You: Oh, you wanna put some music on? Pick it from the top shelf, i feel like something slow, I'm going to go wash up.
You see? You are assuming that you two are going to have sex, without mentioning it at all.
Then you could always use the freeze outs or whatever;
Step one: We shouldn't be doing this babe
You: I know, you're so right, we shouldn't be doing this at all.
And keep going.
Step two: We shouldn't be doing this babe.
You: Yeah, you're right. (Get up, turn off the music, blow out candles, incense, turn on lights)
Go do something mundane, like watch tv, or check your email.
She enjoys making out with you, her brain is rewarding her for being with a high value guy, but she get''s LMR as soon as you try to escalate. You taking away the making out, the good feelings and replacing it with a even worse feeling is worse than the feeling of LMR.
She'll be a little worried;
Her: Babe, what's wrong?
You: Nothing, you don't want to have sex, that's fine. We can just hang, come here, watch some TV with me. Hey look at this! Infant brain surgery? These nuts are actually going to cut open a baby's head!
Bad bad feeling. Later on, re-initiate the kino, make-out, and this time TELL HER to do whatever you go stuck on.
Eg. Take your bra off, take your pants off whatever.
Keep repeating this a few times, no one wants to feel the freeze out so much. She'll put out.
Make sure you have enough comfort too.
