"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Getting the Women

Distant Light

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Many guys think its the cool lines and the level 34 negs and the level 5 opener to get the hb9. All that stuff really doesn't have that much importance. It's like having all these little tree branches and not the actual stump to support it all. So what most people have is a fake stump and have real tree branches hanging, which they then end up getting a few women here and there because they believe your real. But deep down your not. You're still the World of Warcraft level 34 player who is leader of the top guild.

The only thing that is important with getting women is...CONVEYING PERSONALITY

So what is it that you have to convey? I keep this frame and its been working pretty good ever since I started using it...

"I am a "Dominant" "High Value" male who is entitled to everything and anything because of my "Identity". My outlook of life is fascinating because I'm unique, I'm "Authentic"

That right there is all you need to convey to women and you'll be able to have great interactions with EVERY GIRL you will not however LAY EVERY GIRL due to the many variables in this game. (Bad logistics, she has a husband so she doesn't pickup when you call, she is moving, her friends want her to stay, etc)

The Key
After learning new things thanks to a few gurus. I realized it wasn't the lines that was getting the girls, it was what your conveying. After learning from them I realized the most important things to convey...
- Deep Level Identity
- High Value
- Authentic
- Dominance
- Standing out (Being Different)
- Social Skills

When you can convey these things then you'll get the girl. Your no longer thinking about what to say, or the next good joke, or anything like that. It's now where you can say whatever and you could be kissing girls right in front there bfs. You could be embracing a girl in less than 2 minutes. (DA CLAW)

It was a totally shift for me because I had always thought all these great lines were what gets you the girls. But really most of these lines were conveying something and it depended on the person and how he was conveying that line. (Just read my old posts I was heavy on MM and lines. Even though I had success I still had problems that were covered up.)

The only thing you really need to know is how to actually convey those personality traits. SOCIAL SKILLS is what most sites are learning about and some routines may have a personality trait that your conveying. When I talk about social skills I mean...
- You know how to create a good vibe
- You know attract material
- You know comfort material
- You know how to keep the interaction fun
- You know how to convey personality through words

It took me awhile to actually realize it but after I've been testing it for awhile now I realize I've did what would be considered some of the worst openers. Ways I've opened were...
- Grab the girl from behind "O yea baby stay right there"
- "Hey"
- Not saying anything just move my mouth for a second
- "OMG its..." (...the little munchskin...the weakling...the stalker...)

At the end of the day you realize many things don't matter such as.
- Looks, height, money, status, or any other superficial thing
- What you open with
- Whehter she has a bf, husband, friends, orbiters, etc
- Whether you say or do things that would be considered AFC (Don't get it mixed up your still doing it in a way that isn't actually conveying "I'm AFC")
- Whether your joke, story, or whatever you have to say is good enough

The list can go on and on. Since I did this shift I've had 3 pimples that would've annoyed me few months back. But it didn't even make a difference. I even had a shirt and I forgot to take off a piece of tape that was on it. My hair is ****ed up. (I've had girls begging to do my hair) I've had a girl who goes "Everytime I talk to you now, you have something on your face". Or my favorite one "Wow your actually dressed nice today"

As a result it really causes you not to waste so much mental energy worrying about things that are irrelevant. Now I just tend to do what I really want. The only superficial things I actually worry about because its like "MY PERSONAL PASSION" is wearing cool cloth. I got to a point where I walk and move as if I'm a male model. (Far from having male model looks)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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KneghtRyder

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sounds like advice from an experienced dj.

let me ask you , so you consider yourself not good looking and still get laid ?

or are you good/average looking but you don't take care of youself (e.g. hair/clothes etc) ....I am curious because you listed 'looks' as one of the things that don't matter.
 

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KneghtRyder said:
sounds like advice from an experienced dj.

let me ask you , so you consider yourself not good looking and still get laid ?

or are you good/average looking but you don't take care of youself (e.g. hair/clothes etc) ....I am curious because you listed 'looks' as one of the things that don't matter.
I don't have enough social feedback to draw a conclusion of whether or not I think I'm good looking. Because I've been called ugly, cute, washed up, and everything in between. Compared to my friends they're the ones who have the girls attracted to them from the start just off there looks.

As for a yes/no answer I think "NO" I'm not good looking. At times when I don't really take care of my face it can get really dry and peel. (Isn't as bad as it sounds lol) Also at times I can get real little pimples. When I wasn't in the community and was actually decent. (Had a few gfs) I wore "GLASSES and BRACES at one point I had some real big glasses, many of my friends would say I looked nerdy but at those times I was constantly with women.

As for cloth for one year non stop I've wore the same color shirt, hoody, and sneakers. The only thing different were my jeans. The day I actually got into the whole stylish clothing and acting like I'm a male model. (Got the whole male model mindset after awhile of not giving a fuk) EVERYONE was like "OMG" you have different sneakers, your wearing a differnt color shirt. Everyone was surprised and shocked and yes I did get more girls initially more responsive. I stood out from everyone else and that was what got me that little advantage. It's the same with looking good or dressing nice or even having a different accent. You stand out from everyone else.

The funny about me is that I was superficial worst off when I was younger and I was having a lot of success. (That was before I found the community) An then I slowly changed superficially when first joining the community and I had no success. It wasn't until this year and a bit of last year that I acutally got some real success. An it wasn't until now that I'm actually feeling a whole new shift. The stylish cloth is almost addicting to me now but it doesn't really play a role in all the success that I've had.

One thing about wearing cloth though, girls who are attracted will use that as a reason to open you.
 
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