Getting the Better of Obsessive Thoughts

[BigWillyStyle]

How do you overcome obsessive thoughts? I'm not talking about obsessive thoughts relating to chicks; but obsessive thoughts relating to how I got fvcked over by somebody whom I thought I had a professional relationship with.

How I got fvcked over is irrelevant. What is relevant is that I cannot do anything to remedy the situation; the guy that fvcked me over is going to get away with it. So as they say, "If you can't fix the situation, there's no point on obsessing on it." Which is true... but it's not that easy.

Presently, I can't even focus on my studies because of this cvnt. I'm trying to prepare for an upcoming exam but everytime I hit the books this cvnts face pops up in my head. This is driving up the fvcking wall. This is taking a toll on my well-being.

Distracting myself with hobbies doesn't work too well, either; these obsessive thoughts are fvcking up my once much-enjoyed hobbies. And when I get some free time it's even worse. And the icing on the cake is that this has been going on for several weeks now and it hasn't alleviated.

Anyone here struggle with obsessive thoughts? Any ideas on how to get the better of them?

Thanks.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Yeah man, I get obsessive about EVERYHING new in my life.

When I started swimming in high school, I used to visualize myself doing kick turns off of doors that I approached.

When I started taking tae kwon do lessons, I'd do tae kwon do in my dorm room with no one around while cooking.

When I started in the stock market, I checked the value of my stocks obsessively for a month.

Now that I've met a truly wonderful woman, I am obsessing about her (and she about me).


The only remedy for me has been to allow itself to work through my system, recognizing that my infatuation will eventually pass. Generally it passes sooner with the resolution of whatever is on my mind i.e. I actually am in the pool more often, I start making money in the stock market, or I start ignoring the biatch I've been thinking about if she's not really that into me.

Is there ANYTHING you can do? Perhaps you could write an e-mail or verbally tell this person what you think about them and what they did. Writing the letter may help, even if you decide not to send it. I found that writing in a journal REALLY helps calm me down if I'm obsessing about something or someone.

Best of luck.

 

[Danton1975]

Ask yourself the question: "What is good about this situation?" At first, you may reply "Nothing. I have just been F&*^d over" but don't stop there. Find the positive. Have you maybe learned a valuable lesson? Has it driven you to search deeper and avoid being "obsessive" in the future? Has it made you more cautious, wiser? Once you come up with a solid answer, focus on it, and forget the rest. Easier saID THAN DONE

 

[bish0p]

Man, it seems like everybody and their momma on here is having problems with exes lol :rockon:

Come on guys, we can work this **** out!