"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Something is going on here and I dont know what it is. I was friends with my gf for a couple of months then we dated for like a year. We broke up a couple of weeks ago. Just recently we started talking again somewhat. I have slept over her house the last 2 out of 3 nights. This all started when she had some fvcked up stuff happen to her. Of course she will turn to her friends for help but also me too. What? should I say no to her? 3 nights ago I slept with her for the first time in a bit. We touched and kissed and blah blah we said we still love and miss each other, it was so tempting to try something but I talked myself out of it. next day I sleep at my house. yesterday I call her for lunch no call back but she calls after I get of off work asks me to come over I said fine. Go over lay in bed watch tv with her cuddle kiss blah blah. So this is the INTERESTING part, she starts rubbing my six pack and chest takes off my shirt. she seemed into it dont know though. So i get on top and start making out shes still into it. Then I take off her pants I asked if she wanted too when her pants were already off while my d*ck was already in there. Then she says Im tired which could be true cause she is sick (she has a cold just like me from the other night ;) ). So I said ok put my boxers back on didnt act mad and laid back down she came back over and cuddled. I said do you want to have sex with me she said yea but Im tired then did you just come over to have sex and I said no. She has said this even when we were together and everything was good. But we still laid in bed together didnt complain or anything and eventually went to sleep woke up this morning, kissed her on the forehead, said bye and went to work.

I dont know what she is thinking. My guesses are that obvioulsy she likes having someone there which everyone does or maybe she was testing to see if I would still have sex with her cause she was showing strong signs leading me on. Im also thinking she might not want stuff to get to emotional which it could if we have sex. But Im not going to next her yet regardless of what her intentions are. I want her back in my life now cause of the last couple of days. Im trying to not act like I just want sex from her cause I dont. Despite her being in a bad emotional state Im there, any girl doesnt want to feel like they are being used for sex also she might be testing to see where I am at. I dont know????
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by MKS82
Something is going on here and I dont know what it is. I was friends with my gf for a couple of months then we dated for like a year. We broke up a couple of weeks ago. Just recently we started talking again somewhat. I have slept over her house the last 2 out of 3 nights. This all started when she had some fvcked up stuff happen to her. Of course she will turn to her friends for help but also me too. What? should I say no to her? 3 nights ago I slept with her for the first time in a bit. We touched and kissed and blah blah we said we still love and miss each other, it was so tempting to try something but I talked myself out of it. next day I sleep at my house. yesterday I call her for lunch no call back but she calls after I get of off work asks me to come over I said fine. Go over lay in bed watch tv with her cuddle kiss blah blah. So this is the INTERESTING part, she starts rubbing my six pack and chest takes off my shirt. she seemed into it dont know though. So i get on top and start making out shes still into it. Then I take off her pants I asked if she wanted too when her pants were already off while my d*ck was already in there. Then she says Im tired which could be true cause she is sick (she has a cold just like me from the other night ;) ). So I said ok put my boxers back on didnt act mad and laid back down she came back over and cuddled. I said do you want to have sex with me she said yea but Im tired then did you just come over to have sex and I said no. She has said this even when we were together and everything was good. But we still laid in bed together didnt complain or anything and eventually went to sleep woke up this morning, kissed her on the forehead, said bye and went to work.

I dont know what she is thinking. My guesses are that obvioulsy she likes having someone there which everyone does or maybe she was testing to see if I would still have sex with her cause she was showing strong signs leading me on. Im also thinking she might not want stuff to get to emotional which it could if we have sex. But Im not going to next her yet regardless of what her intentions are. I want her back in my life now cause of the last couple of days. Im trying to not act like I just want sex from her cause I dont. Despite her being in a bad emotional state Im there, any girl doesnt want to feel like they are being used for sex also she might be testing to see where I am at. I dont know????
Dude, this is typical women bullshyt behavior. They start ****, then when you respond, they get all emotional and just want to "hug"....Then they try to put a guilt trip on you like you just wanted sex.......It happens all the time. DON'T FALL FOR IT..TELL HER TO FVCK OFF.

A girl never has to go farther than she wants, and no man should ever force her to, but women need to cut the crap out. Either you do want to have sex, or you don't. AND IF YOU DON'T..QUIT ****ING ACTING LIKE YOU DO...
 

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I wanted to add something to this. I was with a woman one time, and 90 percent of her conversation was sexual inuendo. She flirted her ass off, but I didn't really respond. As soon as I did respond, she acted like all I wanted was sex??????????


WTF????I called her on her bullshyt..and she really didn't know what to say....

As has been said before...women don't know what the **** they want, but they sure want men to feel like shyt for it.
 

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how old are you and her?

why did u break up?

why do u want her back?
 

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Im 22 shes 24

Broke up cause we were seeing too much of each other

Want her back cause shes cool when she doesnt do stupid sh*t and has a good education and personality but everyone has their flaws but i dealt with them for a while

should I call her out on it?

We both needed a break.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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well im going to tell you this....

when 2 people have mutual feelings for each other...

they dont break up.


but ussually 2 people dont have mutual feelings for each other..unless they both have there shyt together.

obviously she doenst...

u can do better....she is 24 and doesnt have it together..I would look for other options..while entertaining this one if ur not ready to let it go.
 

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friv couldn't be more right

when two people like each other that's all there is to it there is no breaking up

anytime SOMETHING happend inbetween you two to break you apart will always resurface to cause another break up in the end. this applys to everybody.

90% of the time most relationships that end are meant to stay done.

and on that note girls that are overly affectionate or the relationship seems like its moveing way to fast, normally that's not a good sign either as they are attempting for the MOST PART to fill a gap in there life, once its filled your done. the same can be said if a girl trys to come back to you or makes it seem like that's what she wants.

your filling in holes and once they're filled and you pat them down she'll drop you put you right back where you were and she'll move on until the holes need patching again
 

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I wanted to add something to this. I was with a woman one time, and 90 percent of her conversation was sexual inuendo. She flirted her ass off, but I didn't really respond. As soon as I did respond, she acted like all I wanted was sex??????????


WTF????I called her on her bullshyt..and she really didn't know what to say....

As has been said before...women don't know what the **** they want, but they sure want men to feel like shyt for it.
 

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Dont people need to have their holes filled by someone I know I do.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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Originally posted by MKS82
Dont people need to have their holes filled by someone I know I do.
Ahh,daniel-son...the only hole you have is the one you think you have:D
 
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